My sister and I both have money. She works full-time at Walmart and I work part-time at my college campus. I do my best to save up money for financial stability and to save up for a car. My sister will often times order food from DoorDash for our family, when and when I am not home. I try to but am price sensitive but it depends if we don’t really have much food at home then I would buy food. One day, I bought food for my two siblings and my aunt. I bought Mcdonalds, something slightly cheap in which I bought the $5 meals for us. My sister this day was not home and was working. It was around 5-6 pm when I had bought the food, we hadn’t really eaten all day so I thought I would get something. I have done this before and bought food for them while she was at work.
When I first did this, she did make a comment but we would always joke around about it and it was never really that serious. She would say something around the words like "wow whenever I’m not home you get something to eat." I never intended this to be in any way harmful to her the second time I did this because it was normal to get food obviously if you’re hungry. She came home at around 10pm, so 5 hours after we had gotten food. My other sister and I were playing games and it seemed okay when she came in because we asked her to join us once she settled down and put her things away. She was cordial and said yes and then brought up me buying food for the rest of us because my aunt had told her that I bought food. At first my other sister and I thought she was joking around but then things turned left when she started getting serious about it. She started saying that I could have bought her something but then I told her that it was 5 hours ago and it was just right then and there when we got it because we were hungry and it was something quick. She had this aggressive tone saying that she brings food for the family but she has never bought food for me when I am not home. Yes, when I AM home she does get food but when I am at school (I am usually at school early from ex: 10am – 8pm) and she buys food for them, she doesn’t get me anything and its understandable because they’re hungry and she has the money to get them food. Yes, I said something once but in a joking matter and not like how she was. I brought up a time when she did the exact same thing to me and she didn’t say anything back and went at our other (younger) sister because she made a comment and I backed my sister up and told her to not talk to her like that. I told her that she brought this to herself and started it first and that it shouldn’t have come to this at all, especially over food. So yes, if I have money, of course I am going to buy food for the rest of the family whenever I want to whether she is home or not. Just like she would do the same for them.
So, AITA for not buying my sister food?
Edit: Yes I feel bad for this but at the same time from my POV and thoughts I felt I was valid for this. I love my sister but it was honestly out of touch of her. I do feel bad for bringing up the event of her doing the same thing but I was just in the heat of the moment because I just couldn’t believe she would act this way about it. Please no hate towards her, it just might have not been a good day for her and it was probably the cherry on top that got her more upset. But at the same time she shouldn’t have brought those things to me about her doing these type of things when no one told her to and she willingly orders food for everyone.
NAH. Standard family bickering. Buy her a McDonald’s some day and make up.
I don’t really want to make up for something that she started and made things worse on. She didn’t apologize to my sister and I for her being angry at us and walked out on us after I told her to take her energy elsewhere because her arguing with us did nothing but made things worse. She then afterwards, left our group chats we have across social media and stopped talking to us. imo she should be the one to make up to us and apologize. Just my opinion.
All I see is a situation that can be fixed very inexpensively. The fixing conversation will arise naturally after the burger is bought, but that is basically the first step.
Thank you so much!
5 hour old McDonald’s? I will pass. NTA.
Why on earth wouldn’t she stop and get something fresh on her way home?
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Did she seriously expect you to buy her Mcdonald’s and keep it in the fridge or something? She wasn’t there so she should not even say anything about it. Why did your aunt tell her that you bought Mcdonald’s anyway?
honestly I am not sure why she did. i have a feeling she might have added something when she told her and instigated on what she told her but who knows. I did have the same thought as to why she even told her, especially without me knowing.
She was mad because she didn’t get 5 hours old Mc Donald’s? Girl- 100% NTA.
Really.. you could have gotten her something both times.
Why do you think that this was ok… idk.
wdym i state that she was at work. why would i have gotten food for her while she is at work. especially the second time it happened when i got it 5 hours before she got off work. why would i buy food that will be 5 hours old and not taste well. please read again. would you like a 5 hour old food from mcdonalds?
She doesn’t care about mcds, she truly believes that you will only buy food for the family when she isn’t home. She is overreacting.
NTA