For most of my life, I’ve never been a particularly emotional person and I don’t have any real beliefs, interests or strong opinions about anything. I’ve been told that I barely have a personality and that I seem to just simply exist. Some of my friends are adamant that I have some kind of problem and seem to be rather frustrated and upset that I don’t agree and don’t see the need to see a professional. I suggested to them that it would seem more logical for them to see a professional so they can find a way to deal with their feelings about my disposition as they don’t seem to be able to do that on their own. They did not react well and haven’t spoken to me since.
ESH.
They should not have said what they said.
You DO have a problem though. Not having opinions means you will be more easily radicalised or swayed into extremism or unhealthy relationships.
more context I think. Something is missing.
Light YTA, I don’t really think it’s to the level of AH but I do think you’re in the wrong. What you’re describing is not remotely normal and your friends are concerned – I’m assuming these are close friends.
Firstly I hope you are happy and fulfilled as a person. To others though, you are probably not a very good candidate for a friend. If you don’t care about anything, do you care about other people? Are you a considerate person? Are you a supportive friend? It doesn’t really sound like it. You also sound avoidant and devoid of any actual emotion which is also pretty concerning.
You aren’t really describing yourself in a way that sounds ok
ESH since there’s no real way to judge this without knowing the tone of everyone involved.
“I suggested to them that it would seem more logical for them to see a professional so they can find a way to deal with their feelings about my disposition as they don’t seem to be able to do that on their own.”
That’s certainly an opinion.
Soft YTA.
I dated a guy like this once. Couldn’t name a favorite food. Liked “all music.” No interest in world events, or sports, or celebrities, or movies. Couldn’t get him to name an opinion on anything. It’s impossible to get to know a person like this, and we lasted only a month.
I know now that having no real sense of your preferences and opinions can sometimes be a result of codependent relationships or one where a parent is overbearing in a way that makes the kid try and appease others by having no preferences or emotions. Idk if this is the case for you but this situation could be a result of something that a therapist can help with.
Anyone would have a hard time relating to someone that has no opinions or preferences. Your friends want to get to know you, but first you need to figure out who you really are.
Right, OP isn’t someone who people can really get to know, which other people understandably find very frustrating and strange. Because of this, and, frankly, my own personal bias, I get the sense that their suggestion for OP to see a professional is more of a self-serving expression of frustration, and a disparagement that OP is “different”, than actual concern. That leads me to say NTA.
I am basically OP’s literary foil, the complete opposite. Most of the suggestions that I have experienced from the other extreme to seek professional help have been based in people’s own discomfort and inconvenience that I am “different”, not genuine concern. So I am well aware of that phenomenon, and I imagine that it happens for anyone who is not relatable because they are emotionally outside the norm.
YTA
You’re not interested in anything? Well i guess that will make it easier to digest spending the rest of your life alone. Good luck
I don’t get how anyone is giving a judgement based on this little information. Like, are you just monotonous and not willing to engage meaningfully in any conversations? Do you just not share any of their interests? Do you never know where you want to eat? It can’t be your entire personality, right, because why are they friends with you? What is the specific context for your friend’s frustrations with you?
INFO – I guess context matters. If you have no opinions or beliefs about something bad happening in the world or to your friends, that could come across as callous. You suggested that they should get therapy, but it would be less of a need for therapy and more of a reason someone may not want to be around you.