This is relevant. Husband comes from a rich family, I’m not. He has always gone skiing, I can barely ski have only been a few times.
We went on a ski trip with his parents. It’s expensive, he’a been coming to since childhood. We have our two kids with us who also can’t ski, their grandma sees it as moral failing.
My FIL found a few of his friends, people who knew my husband as a kid. They all went skiing
This morning he told me they were skiing again with his dad’s friend, then asked if I wanted to come. When I asked where, he named a slope that’s clearly not for beginners. I asked what I was supposed to do, and he said I could just come and have the kids.
I tried to explain that this doesn’t feel like a vacation for me, just my usual day in a different setting. He got defensive and we ended up arguing.
AITA? Because this isn’t even the first time. We go somewhere, he goes and has fun and I stay with the kids.
Honey, I think you need to insist that he take the kids skiing so they learn. Give yourself a vacation away from all of them.
NTAH
INFO: Is there a reason not to put the kids (and yourself) in a lesson? Kids learn quickly. It’s harder for adults — I didn’t start until my 30s, so I get it — but just about everywhere will have a bunny hill/beginner area.
Sounds like Husband should be taking the kids skiing and you should be headed to the spa. The kids learn to ski with dad, so they are not “failing” in the eyes of MIL, and you get the weekend off. you are NTA at all
If HE and MIL, FIL LOVE skiing so much Why haven’t they taught the kids yet????? Most ski resorts have a bunny hills. NTA Do they exclude you on purpose?
>he said I could just come and have the kids
Reply “hmmm no I’m going to sleep in but why don’t you take the kids? They’ll have a good time with you. Hey kids! Dad’s taking you skiing!”
When he starts protesting, stare at him and ask “don’t you want to share your childhood with your kids? If you don’t teach them, who will? This is a perfect time with your parents here.” NTA