My neighbor called the police on me three months ago for a "noise violation." I was vacuuming my apartment at 2pm on a Saturday. Middle of the day, weekend, completely reasonable time to clean.
Cops showed up, were confused, told him it wasn’t a violation, left. I was embarrassed as hell having police at my door over vacuuming.
Now he’s moving out and knocked on my door yesterday asking if I could help him carry furniture down the stairs. Just straight up asked like we’re friendly neighbors who do favors for each other.
I said no.
He got upset and said he thought we were past that and neighbors should help each other. That holding grudges isn’t healthy and it’s been three months.
I’m not holding a grudge. I just don’t want to help someone who literally reported me to the police for normal daytime cleaning. You don’t get to weaponize the cops against me for vacuuming and then expect me to carry your couch down three flights of stairs.
My girlfriend says I’m being petty and it would’ve taken like an hour to help. That I should be the bigger person since he’s moving out anyway and I’ll never have to deal with him again.
But why would I help someone who’s shown they’re willing to call the police on me for nothing? What kind of person does that? And then has the nerve to ask for a favor?
He’s been giving me dirty looks in the hallway ever since. Left a note on my door saying I’m a terrible neighbor and he’s glad he’s leaving.
AITA for refusing to help him move?
NTA. Perfect example of FAFO… your girlfriend can help him if she wants.
Call the police on him for the noise he makes while moving out
NTA
1: That’s not your friend.
2: That’s not even your neighbor anymore
3: Even if you did help, do you think he wouldn’t find someway to blame you? If not for any damage or wear on the furniture, then at least blame you for the difficulty of carrying it.
Nah, there’s nothing to win and everything to lose in that scenario.
Nta, he already called the cops for you vacuuming. What happens if he decides you scratched something you were moving??
NTA. Not going above and beyond for someone who hurt/upset you isn’t holding a grudge. Being petty and holding a grudge would be phoning the police about a noise violation while he’s moving furniture.
>I’ll never have to deal with him again.
So why should I go out of my way for someone who has been a real jerk to me?
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What the everlasting eff??? Post a note on his door inviting him to the “Celebrate 504 finally moving” party (with his apartment number, not the one I made up, obviously).
He could ask friends to help him move. Or family. But even if you were his absolute only neighbor in the entire apartment, after calling the cops on you, he eliminated you from his list of people he can ask for favors.
“No, and keep it down when you move, because I don’t wanna have to call the police”
To put a fine point on it, if the police arrived, and there was any confusion or something you could’ve potentially been shot or arrested. It wasn’t like he accidentally got your mail and threw it away or something. This could’ve literally negatively affected your life, job loss, jail, whatever, for no reason.
Also, the fact that he didn’t have any friends or relatives willing to help would lead me to suggest this is probably not an isolated incident.
What’s stopping him from accusing you of stealing something while helping him move? NTA and stay far away from people like him,they’re nothing but trouble.
NTA It’s a liability for you to help such an unreasonable person. Do you want to get sued for ruining his furniture or causing him injury if something goes wrong? Because he’s just the sort of person to do that. Don’t have anything to do with people like him.
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Me personally, I’d have told him to call the cops to see if they could lend him a hand with his move.
People who don’t want to follow social norms when it’s inconvenient for them shouldn’t expect to reap the benefits of those social norms when they need them.
Edit NTA
“Sorry, no. I’m vacuuming”