I’ve been in college for almost a year now. When I first applied, I got into a 1 year program (I’ll call it TAH). About a week before school started, the school suddenly cancelled that program and told us we had 2 days to pick a different one or we couldn’t attend that year. I panicked and chose a 2 year program that’s similar (I’ll call it TM).
At first things were okay, but after the first semester my class got really cliquey. There are about 20 of us and they became very close with each other but completely left me out. I’m not friends with any of them.
Over time it turned into straight up bullying. They laugh at me in class, made a separate group chat without me, go out to class dinners and events without inviting me, make fun of my appearance, and only talk to me when they want help with homework. It’s been a lot of small things that have added up and it’s really taken a toll on my mental health.
I went to my school’s guidance counselor about it. After explaining everything, she connected me with someone in administration who told me something I didn’t know: the original 1 year program I applied to technically still exists in the system and can still graduate students. She said I could transfer into it and graduate this year instead of staying in the 2 year program.
Over the next week the principal and academic chair approved the transfer. I’ll be the final student graduating from that program ever, and the only student graduating this year from it too.
At first I was excited and wanted to tell my classmates, especially because a lot of them complain about the program and talk about wanting to drop out. But the next time I went to class the bullying was so bad that I decided not to tell them anything. I told my professors and staff so they understand the situation, but I haven’t told my classmates since technically it’s the same program just the year version so we are all taking the exact same classes,
Now it’s kind of a weird situation where teachers I don’t even know congratulate me in the hall, but my classmates have no idea what’s going on.
Part of me feels a little guilty because I know some of them would probably have wanted the chance to graduate early too, and I didn’t say anything and don’t plan to.
**So AITA for keeping it to myself?**
NTA, you really don’t owe them shit.
NTA. You don’t owe people who bullied and excluded you a heads up that could benefit them they made it clear you were only worth noticing when they needed something now they can figure things out without you too.
First, I’m so sorry you’ve gone through this. That’s really hard to deal with. Secondly, under normal circumstances you wouldn’t necessarily owe them anything, but especially with the outright disdain they have treated you with, you sure as hell don’t owe them anything.
Graduate, move on from them. Go live your life leave them all behind.
Congratulations on graduating this year.
NTA. It is up to them to figure out their own schooling, not you.
NTA you don’t owe them anything! Congratulations!!
NTA…Instead buy replica Wrestling championship Belt and walk around with it after final exams and flex on these fools💪🏾
NTA. You do you. It sucks to be them.
NTA it’s not on you to inform them. They could have found out for themselves if theyd bothered to talk to the staff… if they’d been nicer, maybe, but how could you tell them when they never talk to you anyway.
NTA. they arent your friends, you owe them literally nothing
NTA: They excluded you,it’s fine to exclude them
Nta, they could’ve looked into these programs if they really wanted
NTA and don’t know why you care. You will hopefully never see those a-holes again.
If any of them ever says anything to you about it, just reply with -Karma for being such complete bully to me the whole year. And then walk away and ignore them.
Why did you make up names for the programs and then proceed to not use them a single time
More than likely, they wouldn’t be approved to graduate early, anyway.
1.YOU were previously enrolled in the 1 year program. Many/most of them probably weren’t. Even if they were, it’s doubtful that they would be approved. You’ve said that they struggle with the classwork. I’m sure the teacher is aware and that the principal and department chair have also been made aware of the other students’ poor performance. They also would have been apprised of your work, as well. IE: they trust that you know the material well enough to have earned your degree.
2. The only reason that you know about the loophole is because you were being bullied. This could also be part of WHY your principal and department chair agreed to sign off on it. They probably wouldn’t be so quick to agree to sign the approval for the other students so telling them probably wouldn’t even make a difference.
3. You can still decide to tell them, when and IF they ever ask or speak to you about anything besides homework questions. If they find out later, you can tell them that the only reason YOU found out about it was because you had to see a counselor because your mental health was suffering because of being bullied by your classmates. You can tell the first person that makes a friendly overture, if it happens. If it happens, great! Tell them and maybe you’ll find a friend. If not, don’t worry about it.