I (22F) live with my mom (48F), my grandma (80F) and my stedpdad (50M). The thing is, I’m a heavy sleeper, I have slept through my alarm several times, I mostly work from home but twice a week I have to go to the office, and to go I set several alarms from 6 to 7am so I can make sure I wake up, most of the time I sleep throught two of my alarms but once I wake up (generally, 6:30) I turn off the rest, they’re not overly loud or anything, they’re normal phone alarms. Thing is, my mom approached me yesterday to say that she’s is tired of my alarms and that I should mindful and responsible, she says it’s loud enough to wake up the whole block (it’s not) and that it’s super irritating, and that I should put them until at least 7:45, thing is, at that hour I have to be on my way to the bus station, I literally can’t put it at that hour. And while I can acknowledge that it must be awful to wake up from someone else’s alarm, there’s not much I can do about it? What are my options? Turning off my alarms and hope that I won’t be late? I have tried to lower the volume but it doesn’t wake me, I also have tried to go to bed earlier, but for the life of me I can’t fall asleep. And it really surprises me that she can hear it considering we have quite some distance between our rooms, including not even being in the same floor. My stepdad and grandma don’t have an issue because they also wake up at that hour out of habit.
Ps: Moving is not an option, at least not yet, I have a job but it doesn’t pay enough to have my own place.
So AITA for not turning off my alarms?
YTA, figure out a different alarm system. One with lights or heavy vibration – do some research. Don’t make the whole house miserable because you can’t get up.
YTA waking everyone up cause you can’t figure yourself out is incredibly selfish. I despise people that do that, it’s just so incredibly self centered “everyone must suffer cause I’m a princess and my shedule is more important than theirs “. Get a vibrating watch or something. Smh.
YTA.
My partner uses his phone for alarms. It’s not a fancy phone. He frequently wakes up BEFORE his alarm and then goes to shower or make breakfast while his alarm is sounding in his room upstairs.
I can hear that alarm from downstairs on the opposite side of the house. I can hear it through walls. I can hear it while someone has the shower on.
It’s absolutely disruptive, especially on the mornings when he has to wake up earlier than me. It’s one thing to get woken up by someone’s alarm as they wake up and immediately shut it off, but to be subjected to someone’s alarm going off nonstop for upwards of 30 minutes is unbelievably inconsiderate.
They make alarms that use light and/or movement. If you are sharing a home, the respectful thing to do would be to investigate less disruptive options.
Have you tried turning it down and leaving the phone next to your head? That way it is loud enough to wake you, but hopefully not loud enough to wake others. Or maybe a vibration alarm? I’ve heard of ones that can basically shake your whole bed.
YTA. What are your options? Get out of bed. You have trained yourself into this routine, take some responsibility for yourself.
My upstairs neighbour used their phone as an alarm and would sleep through it, meanwhile I would be woken up as soon as it sounded and had to listen to the ring and vibrations while not being able to stop it. Once it rang out I’d start to drift off again only to repeat the cycle. It drove me crazy.
Your oversleeping is your problem and shouldn’t affect others. There are other options, use a watch alarm that vibrates, look into alarms for deaf people, find a way to wake up that doesn’t disturb the people you live with (or near) eventually you’ll move out and could have issues with noise complaints if you wake your neighbours! This is something you’ll have to find a solution to.
You asked for solutions- I would suggest a Fitbit or similar that will vibrate on your wrist to help wake you.
Obviously you can’t set your alarm after you need to have left, but I’ve lived in shared housing with people who sleep through their alarms and listening to full minutes of phone alarm increasing in volume across the house is extremely grating. I have even gone in to wake the person and turn off their alarm before. I’ve broken into a flatmate’s room when he wasn’t home to turn off his fucking horrible radio alarm.
If the question is as simple as if YTA, then yeah, soz.
YTA – if deaf people have alarms they use to get up, you can use them too
YTA. I rented a basement apartment from a friend years ago. She set 2 alarms plus the radio at full blast, to go off at 5 am. Mine was set for 7. She NEVER got up when the alarms went off. She’d let the racket continue until 6 am. I talked to her about it, but it made no difference. Needless to say, I didn’t live there long. To this day, I remember all that noise first thing in the am, and I don’t know how I tolerated it as long as I did.
You need to either find a different way to wake up or just move. No excuses, this is on you.
YTA for not being a good roommate.
Talk to your doctor about getting a sleeping pill or establishing a sleep routine, instead. So you’re not burdening others by waking them up with your alarms.
YTA, and I bet having all of those alarms is how you trained yourself to sleep through them. I had to have the same discussion with my teenage daughter; one loud, annoying ass alarm that is sure to wake you up. Then actually get your ass out of bed. You are 22 years old. Figure yourself out already. My 19-year-old can do it, so can you.
Sorry YTA. You’re the youngest here, so it’s easy to say, “I’m the baby, so I should be allowed,” but you’re being really inconsiderate of the rest of your family. Get a vibrating watch, talk to a doctor if you need to, but at least attempt to accommodate (read: stop inconvenencing) the rest of your family instead of just saying you don’t have a solution so you’re not going to attempt to find one.
Sorry YTA. I can understand having 1 alarm at that time, but multiple alarms at that hour because you can’t wake up is unnecessary. I agree with your mom.
My advice- take some melatonin or unisom in the early evening so that you can fall asleep early and wake up on time.
YTA – multiple alarms that disrupt other people in the house is a shitty thing to do. I wake up earlier than the other people in my house (sometimes at 330, sometimes at 5) but I only have one alarm and wake up when it goes off.
If you aren’t waking up until 630, that means there are multiple alarms going for almost 30 mins because you aren’t awake.
Set one alarm, and wake up when it goes off at 6, or change it to 630 and wake up then. You are being very inconsiderate to the other people who live in the house.
How would you like if they set multiple alarms to go off at 3am, but don’t turn them off til 330?