AITA
for not wanting the missus of one of my mates to come to my Bachelor party?
We have known eachother for over 20years and she wants to come to the bachelor party but I said apart from strippers no woman should attend a bachelor party. After saying this I am the bad guy.
ESH. You for the honestly pretty misogynistic way you’ve phrased it (“other than strippers”… really? And no man could ever be friends with a woman he wants at his bachelor?), and her for clearly not trusting her partner and trying to control him (although given how you’ve phrased it she clearly has some pretty valid concerns about what’s going down at this party).
Hold on, why is the woman the AH? There is no indication that she doesnt trust her partner. OP makes it sound like she wants to come to the party itself, but im more wondering if she just wants the opportunity to go to Thailand, which, despite what this thread is making it out to be, isnt all sex tourism and there are some amazing places to go and things to do.
I think she’s concerned about the strippers.
Why?? What do you intend to do? The way you word it makes it seem like if she is worried she has every right to be.
Not the bad guy but seriously you’re having strippers at your bachelor party?
It’s pathetic.
Yeah, you don’t go to Thailand to party with strippers unless you’re a sex tourist.
You should mention in your post that it’s not really a party it’s a holiday in Thailand lol
It’s sex tourism
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Be honest. Why have you chosen Thailand as the destination? What do you intend to do in those strip clubs?
Since I’d love an answer to your question, I’m going to add the tag INFO so it alerts the OP. I hope I’m not stepping on your toes
INFO “Be honest. Why have you chosen Thailand as the destination? What do you intend to do in those strip clubs?”
YTA for having strippers at your bachelor party in THAILAND. hope your fiance leaves you before the wedding considering you feel you need to fool around with other women before you commit to her forever. disgusting.
Well ur nta for choosing the guest list and traditionally, bachelor parties are only men anyways.
YTA for having strippers at ur bachelor party tho, especially in Thailand. Even if ur partner is comfortable with it, its shady and weird. Why r u trying to seek pleasure from other woman. Ts isn’t simply like watching porn, ur actively gonna engage in some way and its cheating. What a weird thing to do before getting married.
Also anyone else who is invited and has partners might also be uncomfortable with the idea, even if not expressed. Ofc a guy feels obligated to come to a bachelors but their partners definitely don’t want it to be a cheat fest.
Talk to ur partner, talk to ur friends and reconsider this. Maybe just go to Thailand and takeaway the strippers, even if it’s normalised its not ok.