Throwaway for obvious reasons long time reader first time poster. I 25M, reconnected with a group of friends from college I had a falling out with during college. Back in March of 2023, one of the guy I was friends with lets call him Daniel 25M. Gradually we all started to reconnect and build that friendship up again. In July of 2023, I decided to reconnect with the last of the guys I had a falling out with and was hoping he had grown up, we will call him Michael 24M.
After we all reconnected, we formed a group chat where we could talk, share memes etc. Michael would constantly blow up the group chat with 200+ messages an hour to the point where I muted it. He would constantly start play arguments with me, try and egg me on, start unwanted political conversations. I had told him to knock it off, and he would be upset with me for putting up a boundary. About 2 weeks after we reconnected he started calling almost every day, and I did not feel close with this guy at all. There was one day he said Man I know you’re a busy person but you need to put effort in. I responded and was like look Michael you have called almost every day, you called my friend needy, well calling every day without warrant while blowing up a group chat is needy. His response fine whatever. This is important because I am on the west coast and he was on the east coast. We’d constantly fight and he would disagree with my political views and act like I was the stupidest person in the world. He’d say things like you can’t debate stick to tech lil bro would call me a moron and things of that nature. Another issue I had with him is being point blank I smoke weed. He said stop smoking weed. I told him to stay in his lane, and his response was you think you intimidate me? When you say things like that I take you less seriously. I said I don’t care it’s not your place you didn’t talk to me for 2 years we live 3 time zones apart.
My last straw was when I was dating this girl and I told him I would not be around that day as I was spending the day with my girlfriend at the time. He called once, my gf said answer it. I said no, he needs to learn I’m not at his beck and call. He calls again, this time I pick up and say "I am with my girlfriend and busy as I told you this morning what do you want?" He said oh you’re busy and hung up. A few weeks later that girl and I broke up, and then 2 weeks after that, the group chat Michael was in was going off about politics, I said I’m not in the mood for politics then left. Apparently the rest of the group followed suit. He blamed me for the group chat falling apart and after the argument said hows the dating search going, I said its fine. He said look man you need some space text me when you want to talk. I never reached back out, and then he removed me on social media.
There’s more to the story but thats the gist AITA?
NTA, he sounds insufferable and I’m curious why you even wanted to engage with this group. Him having a go at you constantly and always calling is just a lot.