My wife has a 15 year old daughter. We have a 4 year old son and 5 year old daughter together.
My stepdaughter is skinny with long legs and a small waist. She has a chronic illness that has affected her growth. My wife still shops for her in the children’s section most of the time but she wears different sizes in shirts than pants. In tops she’s a 14 in girls or 8 in boys. In pants she’s a 12 slim, which is impossible to find in leggings. We usually end up getting adult xxs, sometimes xs and getting it hemmed.
I get having her pants altered because they’re going to be worn out in public.
My wife just bought her some winter pajamas, which almost always come in sets. She usually gets everything in a size 14 but the waist is too big so she wants to get her pajama pants altered and have them add a tighter elastic waistband or a drawstring.
I told her that these pants won’t be worn out of the house and that getting them altered is a waste of money but she thinks it’s unfair that the rest of us get to have clothes and pajamas that fit and my stepdaughter is just supposed to deal with it because they won’t be worn out of the house.
Now she’s being petty and saying that a new jacket for me is a waste of money because mine from before we had kids works just fine and my socks having holes isn’t a big deal because nobody will see them under my shoes.
My mom thinks I should give in and take the pajamas for alterations to keep the peace but I just think it’s an unnecessary expense. AITA for not wanting to get her pajama pants altered
YTA, The poor girl should be able to walk around her own home without having to worry about her bottoms falling down.
But how are they supposed to stay up on her waist if the waist is too big? YTA
YTA – if the jammies don’t already have a drawstring then they don’t fit her, do they? What is the kid doing, using suspenders?
Keep wearing your old coat , bro.
YTA. Your step daughter isn’t allowed to be comfortable with clothes that won’t fall off of her?? Seriously – how much money does it cost to keep your wife and your step daughter happy in this specific instance, 20 bucks at most?? Do the right thing.
YTA. Clothes that don’t fit will rub weird or fall down. Those PJs won’t be as comfy for her if they aren’t altered. Such is the cost of having a chronically ill child. You have to accommodate the child, because they ALSO DESERVE COMFORT and it’s not their fault they are CHRONICALLY ILL. Ffs
YTA. It doesn’t matter if she’s not wearing them in public. She’s still wearing them and they don’t fit. Is she just supposed to walk around holding her pajama pants up thr whole time, or walk around and let them continuously fall down.
It’s really isnt all that hard to add eslatic to a pair of pajama pants. If you don’t want to spend the money. Spend 15 minutes on YouTube and do it youreelf
YTA
That girl is 15. She’s probably struggling with her self-perception anyhow if she doesn’t have a typical teenage body.
You’re asking her to wear clothes that are too big and slide down in bed is not nice.
It’s not that expensive to get them altered.
Alterations really don’t cost that much, she’s asking for a pair of pjs not her entire wardrobe. I’m going with YTA
YTA, why would you punish a child? Especially one who has a chronic illness.
YTA
You didn’t say that you can’t afford it, just that it is not worth your stepdaughter’s comfort and dignity to have the pants altered.
When you’re a kid with physical abnormalities sometimes you just want to feel normal and part of that is having things fit. How does your daughter feel in all of this?
YTA!!! WTF is with people remarrying and then treating step kids like crap?
How is your step daughter suppose to wear the pajama bottoms if they don’t fit and are too big? Is she suppose to walk around the house while holding up her pj bottoms with one hand?
YTA. I have a kid who struggled to find clothes that fit correctly when he was younger. It’s not a waste of money to alter the pj bottoms so your step daughter can feel comfortable in her clothes.
YTA just starting out with “My wife has a 15 year old daughter…” Think about that.