So, me and my friend have the same history class together, and for context she hardly shows up to school. We’re in 10th grade, Canada so it’s by percents, not letters. ANYWAYS she’s missed like a week and half, and now is asking me for the notes in history. I usually do give them to her cause it’s usually more like she’ll be missing Monday, Tuesday and she’s my friend. She always claims she does the work, but just doesn’t hand it in on time. She literally has single digit percentages in her grades she’s hardly there. I don’t wanna be rude and petty for not giving the notes to her, but I actually put in the work for my grades. And for the record, her reasoning is usually that she had a headache, or needed to sleep more so she didn’t come. I come to school with 5 hours of sleep and a headache most of the time.
NTA. She’s allowed to ask and you’re allowed to say no.
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NTA! If she were truly sick, with a Dr’s note, or if someone had died in her family, then I’d say give the notes! But she’s just being lazy, so no!
NAH. You can refuse especially if you put in a lot of efforts in your notes but it will probably affect your friendship.
But please get more sleep, if possible.
NTA. I’d be direct with her. “You can’t make up for missing classes by getting notes, and I’m not comfortable enabling you by providing them. Please don’t ask me for my notes again. I won’t give them to you unless you’re actually attending class, in which case we can share our notes.” Keep in mind if she’s relying on your notes to pass there’s a good chance she’ll blame you if she doesn’t pass. Don’t put yourself in that position.
Honestly, sharing notes is one of the simplest ways you can support a friend. No one can copy your understanding, your effort, or the way you write your papers, that’s yours. Letting someone see your notes doesn’t take away from the work you’ve done or the knowledge you’ve earned. It just helps someone out who’s your ‘FRIEND’.
Won’t say you’re the A but you might be getting there if you keep this up.
Does sharing your notes with your friend affect you negatively in any way? Does it take away anything from you?
Do you know if everything is ok with your friend? Is she missing a lot of class because maybe there is something going on in her life you don’t know about?
Ultimately it’s up to you if you want to choose a journey of pettiness on your high horse or if you want to be kind.
Sounds like she’s unlikely to use them anyway. You could say “okay, but this is the last time, because I come to class to take notes when I really don’t want to, and you should too”.
Maybe I’m misunderstanding. Does “sharing notes” not mean the same in different places? My understanding of “sharing notes” is letting someone copy the notes you took during class. They aren’t graded and it’s just your notes you took so that you can study. Is this correct? If so, I don’t see the big deal, but NAH. You’re not an AH because it’s your right to say no, but I wouldn’t consider you a friend if this actually bothers you. A friend shouldn’t care about sharing notes. I’ve let people I don’t even talk to copy my notes. It’s just notes.
It’s sort of two different things in this class. It is for studying but we also get a mark for completing it.
Give her the notes. She’s in single digit percentages. It literally does not matter, she’s failing the classes regardless. You’re stressing over making a decision that changes nothing. Just do the option that’s less of a hassle