For a very long time me and my maternal cousin were very close, at one point we were in the same school, but everything changed when he moved away to another town, the town he moved to was very rich and soon I saw his character change, he went from the humble nice guy to a spoiled smug kid, at first I brushed it off thinking it was just a phase he was going through,
but the more we talked on the phone and the more I would see his this behavior continuing, he would regularly be mocking poor people, make fun of single moms struggling to pay the bills, and sometimes he would mock working families (which I also came from a working family), this behavior continued for months leading up the annual thanksgiving family reunion.
Ironically the thanksgiving family reunion was at his house that time, and once I arrived, he showed me the house and we talked about cousin stuff, but what I didn’t know is that he invited his rich friends over, nonetheless I didn’t care since I thought it would be another way for me to socialize being 14(M) at that time, but slowly the conversation was becoming more and more toxic, they would start by making dark humor jokes about single moms, then started mocking poor families and after many jokes about poor people, they would start attacking and mocking working class families,
and before I knew my cousin started mentioning my family and started mocking them heavily, my cousin then pulled out his phone and started recording me while mocking my family’s living condition with his rich friend, it got so bad that I started crying in the video. I tried to leave the room but his rich friend stood up fast and locked the door.
I was left in the room being recorded and left to tears, his big sister came in at the end and unlocked the door with a key, I ran downstairs and told my mom everything, my cousin of course denied it and tried to play the victim by having his rich friend be the witness, but the day after my family decided to leave and I never talked to him again.
After 16 years, I was 30(M) when my aunt announced to the whole family that the same cousin who left me in tears was gonna get married, she sent the invite to the whole family, and of course I didn’t come, now my whole family hates me and thinks I am the villain for purposefully skipping his marriage, AITA?
NTA
An invite isn’t a summons. You can choose not to attend for any reason. Not having a good relationship with the groom seems like a valid one.
[https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=H6yQOs93Cgg](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=H6yQOs93Cgg)
YTA
It’s RrrrEEEAAAALlllllll!
This post seems like a 13-year-old’s idea of how wealth happens (by moving to a “very rich town”). I smell a fake.
I also wish it was fake, I wouldn’t wish that situation on anyone
I could make an argument like his family had money and moved to a more affluent area or maybe his parents got job upgrades and started bringing in a lot more $$$ but from the post we just don’t know. But it is possible.
fake
NTA
This reads like a “novel” advertised during a mobile game. No judgement.
NTA.
I’m about 50/50 on whether your post is legit or not, but regardless humanity is over 2,000 years old so this has happened somewhere to someone. No one should be bullied, your cousin is an asshole, and you’re not wrong for not attending the wedding.
I suspect that the “everyone hates you” for not attending is at least in part that they’re all trying to suck up to your rich cousin and his rich parents and are butt hurt that you’re not towing the line.
NTA. After 16 years with no contact with him, he is practically a stranger.
It is of course possible that he changed. I guess he is around your age and 14 back then is an age when some kids turn into AH, but many grow out of it once they leave their teenage years behind. But in all the 16 years he didn’t try to contact you again, have again a relationship with you. So it doesn’t really matter, if he is maybe a nice guy now.
The fact remains that he is practically a stranger to you now, a stranger who hurt you a lot as a teen and never apologized to you.
NTA. Who the hell would want to be around that kind of person?
NTA