Someone asked me to take a 7.5 kg parcel back with me on a flight. I said no because I’m travelling light, have limited space, and didn’t feel comfortable carrying that much extra weight for someone else.
They seemed disappointed, and now I’m second-guessing myself and wondering if I was being unreasonable or unhelpful.
AITA for saying no?
Edit:
I knew what was in the parcel and the person is a friend’s relative, which is partly why I’m wondering if I should have agreed and why I feel I might be the asshole.
What? Are you out of your mind?
Info: do you know what was in the package? Do you personally know the person who requested this of you? What did they want you to do with their package once at your destination?
Hell no. That could be 7.5kg of cocaine.
INFO NEEDED. Who is “someone”? A random person you met at the airport? Your mother? Your colleague? The answer to the question really depends on who is asking this.
I knew what was in the parcel and the person is a friend’s relative, which is partly why I’m wondering if I should have agreed and why I feel I might be the asshole.
Still no. A friend’s relative? Still a big red flag. 🚩 and they can carry their own package.
NTA
No way lmao
Airplane and mysterious packages are things you don’t mix
And end up in prison for trafficking drugs? No thank you.
This is the way Dateline specials start.
NTA
If you knew the person, knew what was in the parcel, and watched it be packed after which it never left your sight it’s, at worst, a minor slight.
Did they offer to pay for extra carry-on baggage?
NTA
This isn’t about carrying a mystery package for someone you don’t know. This is about whether the person who knows you through your friend was asking for too much. They were.
If this were a domestic checked-in piece of luggage, they were asking you to give up 1/3 of your allowed weight. If it were a carry-on or an international flight, they were asking for pretty much your full weight limit (at least over 70%).
Moreover, if it is international, there are limits on the quantity of certain items, so even legal items matter.
Then there’s the hassle you have to go through at your destination – either arranging someone to come pick up the package (or worse, you delivering it to them or having to mail it there).
If it is domestic, the person just needs to pay for shipping. If it is international, they still need to figure out a better way than imposing such a heavy item on someone who has no personal interest in this item or the people receiving it.
seriously? you’re not going to say what it is? 🙄
7.5 kg of something. I’m assuming its not cocaine, and something that one assumes would be allowed on a flight so… whats the problem? If its say… 7.5 kg of yarn… thats going to be pretty bulky… vs… I’m trying to think of a single package of something that they’d let you take on a plane. Even if it was a 15 lbs kettlebell (which is less than 7.5 kg)…. not thinking they’d let you take it.
So… What is it? The fact that you aren’t just saying what it is, is annoying.
With the extra info NAH. An acquaintance asked you for a favor and you declined. It wasn’t so burdensome to be rude for them to ask and it wasn’t so trivial it was rude of you to decline. Just because someone is disappointed doesn’t make you or anyone an AH. Sometimes people are disappointed and that’s ok.
Even with the updated info I’d say NTA. they’re asking you to carry a 6 month old baby with you basically. I’m guessing you’re just taking a carry on too? Like if it was your suitcase that you’re just rolling around and had space for it, I’d tell them sure, but they have to pay for the extra weight on the luggage fees.