I (28F) have been doing almost all the cooking in my household for the past two years. My partner (30M) can cook, but he rarely does. I had been taking cooking classes at my local college and in the past in high school for several years. I’ve enjoyed cooking for him but at this point it’s basically expected. The issue is that no matter what I make, he always has something negative to say. If it’s healthy, it’s “too bland.” If it’s indulgent, it’s “not good for him.” If I try a new recipe, he says it’s “not something he’d ask for.” He’ll also add salt, hot sauce, or something else before even tasting it, then joke about how it needs “fixing Last week, after I spent over an hour cooking, he took one bite and said, “It’s okay, but you should’ve done it differently.” I snapped and told him I’m done cooking for him. I said I’ll cook for myself, but he can handle his own meals from now on. I don’t think it’s fair to keep putting in effort just to be criticized, but now he’s upset and acting like I’m the problem.
NTA
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You are NTA! He sounds ungrateful and picky! Let him cook his own meals, or make him cook for both of you instead!
NTA. There’s polite, constructive criticism, then there’s that.
Nta. First discouraging comment would have been his last meal from me.
So ungrateful, and so rude! NTA at all.
NTA. Let him be upset. You were doing him a favour, and he decided to disrespect you. He knows that he’s being rude, he doesn’t care. I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s doing this as a way to assert some kind of stupid power trip to get you to “cater” to him.
Start cooking for yourself, and make sure its portions for one. Honestly I’d even get a food lock box, and store leftovers in there to really drive the point. If he keeps complaining, I’d be saccharine sweet and say something along the lines of “sorry honey, since you were never happy about my cooking, I figured I’d give you some rest from it”. Every time. Let him FAFO.
NTA, I know it’s cliche to say leave your partner but do you really want to be instantly criticized like this forever?
NTA.
Man doesn’t like the food someone is going to the trouble of fixing, he can fix his own food. I’m curious, though: is this the only bad behavior he displays? Does he minimize and criticize anything else you do?
NTA. I wouldn’t cook for him either. He’s being an ass.
NTA. He’s doing it on purpose. I’m betting he gives you a lot of little critiques in an attempt to keep you down. Let him make his own food.
NTA no one deserves to be treated in such a way. I would never cook for him again either
NTA. He sucks. He’s beating you down because he is grumpy or whatever. He’s supposed to lift you up. I would not cook either.
NTA. The cooking is not the real problem. He is simply unkind and ungrateful. He’s trying to make you jump through hoops to get his impossible approval. Is this how you want to live.
NTA, but he’s negging you. Does he do this with other things as well?