i am 17F and my brother is 29M and my cousin is 26M. My brother keeps requesting me to go to my cousin’s house multiple times as we used to go occasionally earlier. However I don’t enjoy going as much anymore because whenever I don’t go, my cousin and his family gets drunk and I feel like I am interrupting whenever I go even tho they don’t drink when I do. Furthermore my cousin refuses to engage with me on social media because his ‘grown up content’ etc .. is too ‘mature’ for me and constantly treats and talks to me as if I was a child. I also feel extremely ostracised in that setting as they usually only talk about old memories or sports/tv shows etc which I cannot participate in. The only event which I can participate in and enjoy is when we play games which we don’t usually do. whenever I go it’s only my brother and cousin talking while I sit alone in a room which is why I don’t enjoy going and usually feel left out.
my brother keeps asking me to go and try to enjoy myself but I feel unable to blend in and participate in most things.
AITA?
NTA. You are your own person and feeling not welcome is a perfectly valid reason to not go somewhere. Just because genetics doesn’t mean they are entitled to your precense
NTA – If you don’t enjoy it then don’t go..
Why is he so insistent you go? You’re 8-10 yrs younger than they are. Why WOULD you go?
NTA
This is exactly what I was wondering
To have the house to himself?
Do they live together?
“We used to go”. I assumed this to mean the brother and Op both go to the cousins place, I could be wrong
Well of course NTA.
But why does your brother keep asking you to go, after you have presumably already told him straightup that you don’t want to go and don’t like being there?
Offer him some ear cleaners, because he obviously has blocked ears.
NTA. Don’t go. Why on earth does he want you to go and hang around with two twenty-something men? It’s boring to you.
NTA- It’s unfair for them to pressure you to go just for them to engage in activity and competent you can’t participate in. What would even be the point of you being there?
This is stupid…
If you don’t want to go, why would you be an AH?
The only reason I can think of that would make you an AH for not going, is the fact that you say you don’t like going because they drink, but that they don’t when you’re there – so using that as an excuse not to go seems pretty moot.
NTA. Strong NTA and I can relate with these type of families, they want u to get involved with relatives to look better, but to be honest if they are not trying to even do something u might be able to participate in or enjoy , then do not go. They don’t care. Not even considering the age , but if they can’t consider you and your presence then you shouldn’t either.
NTA. Your brother is ridiculous for asking you to spend time some place you don’t enjoy. If your brother enjoys your cousins company, good for him. You stay home and do what you enjoy.