I’m (Research Engineer) attending a conference soon, and my employer is covering my hotel expenses. I booked a hotel room for myself and made sure to choose a nicer one by picking a budget-friendly flight and saving money elsewhere.
There’s another colleague (Staff Research Scientist) who’s also going to the conference, but his trip isn’t funded by our employer. He mentioned that he’s on a budget and kind of hinted that he’d like to share my hotel room, even offering to pay the extra cost for the additional bed. However, he earns significantly more than I do, and I feel uncomfortable sharing the room, even if he’s willing to pay.
Additionally, he didn’t directly ask me if he could share the room; he just brought it up as a general idea. Moreover, we’re co-authors on a paper for the conference, which makes the situation a bit more complex.
So, am I the asshole if I refuse to share my hotel room?
I do not share a room with anyone other than my spouse and dog. Full stop.
I choose this guy’s wife and or dog.
Bold of you to assume their spouse is a wife. :p
Bold to assume I am a guy.
I am, but that is beside the point. lol
I choose your dog.
Another vote for the dog.
Team dog! 🙋
Is there a cat available that I could room with?
NAH. He just asked if he could, so tell him no. Should’ve just done that from the get-go.
> Additionally, he didn’t directly ask me if he could share the room; he just brought it up as a general idea.
The coworker didn’t even ask at all.
NTA
Co workers are not close or family friends. No sharing should be the rule.
Nta. He can figure out his own accommodations. That is not your responsibility.
Yeah you’re making this into a way bigger thing than it needs to be – just have to say no and set a boundary
NAH
NTA. I wouldn’t share a room with anyone I’m not at least a passing acquaintance with and from what you’re saying you two are basically strangers.
NTA. I like most of my coworkers, but would never be comfortable sharing a hotel room with them. My professional colleagues don’t need to know that I like very long, scalding hot showers, or that I snore, or that I unwind by watching trashy reality tv at night.