I live with my girlfriend and on a weekend we will clean the full apartment. We both have specific chores that we complete.
I tend to finish first and in the past I’ve asked my girlfriend if she wants any help with hers but she always refused since she likes to do things her way. She was the same when living at home, if her mum did the chores my girlfriend does, she would redo them her way.
I clean the bedroom, office and kitchen and I vacuum the apartment. My girlfriend cleans the bathroom and living room and dusts the apartment. I finished my chores this weekend and then put tv on and started playing a video game.
She walks past the living room and comments “that must be nice”. I asked what she meant and she said it was bullshit that she was still cleaning and I was relaxing playing games. I said I can’t help finishing first and that she likes to do her chores her way so what exactly was I supposed to do.
She just repeated that I shouldn’t be sat playing video games while she’s still cleaning.
AITA for playing video games when my girlfriend was still cleaning?
NTA .. That’s crazy. What are you supposed to do? Sit around and watch her? Insist on helping and have her get mad because you didn’t do it right? Stare at the ceiling? I’m genuinely curious. If you find out let us know
This same post again? Is this a copypasta?
Go for a walk and come back with coffee and treats for both of you
Should you be following her round watching? Applauding her when she finishes one? Sit in the corner facing the wall enjoying nothing because she’s doing something she doesn’t like? Good grief – is she always so passive aggressive?
The fact that you generally finish your chores first suggests one or more of the following:
\- the chores are split unevenly such that you have less to do
\- you are faster / she is slower at completing the chores
\- you have different (i.e. yours are lower) standards of what clean is
Suggest you work out which of these it is and go from there
Or it suggests girlfriend cleans like she plans to operate in that bathroom..
Cleaning doesn’t mean everything has to be soaked, scrubbed and disinfected..
INFO: Was she already done cleaning the living room when you went in to relax and game, or was she gonna have to work around you?
INFO: How are you done with vacuuming the whole apartment before she is done with dusting the whole apartment?
What’s the point of vacuuming the whole floor space if she is still dusting higher surfaces?
Also how old are you – you simply need to have a clear conversation about what each expectations are.
She dusts first and I vacuum last. By the time I vacuum she’s already dusted.
So she is done with dusting before you can finish your chores and she was done with the living room by the time you started playing.
According to her list of chores, she only had the bathroom left to clean?
(And since you’re done with your vacuuming, I assume you don’t vacuum that room)
I still say you need to have a proper conversation \^\^
NTA. You finished your chores and offered to help before, but she refused. It’s not fair for her to be upset when you’re done with your tasks. Maybe you could offer help again next time, or suggest splitting the chores differently so you both finish around the same time. But you’re not wrong for relaxing after completing your work.
NTA. My husband and I also divide chores, if I finish first I sit down with a cup of coffee, if he finishes first he sits down with a bottle of beer. What are you supposed to do, give her moral support?
INFO: You listed the rooms you clean but not the tasks for each room, which I think is required. When you say clean the bedroom, are you… changing bedsheets? Folding and hanging laundry away? Wiping surfaces? Picking up misc items on the floor from the week that got left behind? When she is cleaning the bathroom is she… scrubbing the toilet, emptying the bin, cleaning the sink, shower and tub, changing out towels and cloths? Refilling soaps? Wiping mirrors? Mopping floors? I definitely think her “standards” are higher in that she’s doing more to ensure those specific spaces are clean.