I (20F) have been continuously made take care of my sister’s (25 F) children both under 4 which is difficult. Anyway I have recently begun to say no because it’s getting too constant and i feel like my life is revolving around minding my niece and nephew and my sister expects me to say yes every-time and will get mad if i don’t which causes my parents to call me every name under the sun. Today I said no to washing her dog and you’d swear I said no to saving someone’s life the way everyone reacted. If i go anywhere outside of my house it’s expected that i buy food for her children ( she doesn’t stock up and it feels like she just leaves it for other people to buy on purpose) Just annoying since i’ve had to rush home from dates with baby food so that my nephew could be fed. My parents completely are on her side and the only person who agrees with me is my brother since he gets treated the same
I’m going to guess you’re living at home. So option one is to move out. If that’s not an option getting a job or enrolling in school to keep you out of the house as much as possible is an option. Saying no to your sister isn’t a crime. It’s your sister’s job to feed her kids, not yours.
NTA You need to move.
NTA. Your sister is responsible for her own family. Based on what you said about your brother agreeing with you, I’m assuming your sister is the favorite?
Get busy with something. Job, hobby, studies. You’re not available.
NTA! She chose to have kids, she can feed them and care for them. You are allowed to have a life, as are your parents and brother. Helping out here and there is one thing, but when it interferes with your plans it’s off the table for discussion. She should 100% be providing food for her children, especially if they are not able to eat regular table food.
NTA. I’m confused, are you the baby daddy, or her sister? Makes sense to ask you to babysit here and there, but to feel like you NEED to say yes and your parents getting mad if you say no is just unfair. The children are her responsibility. You deserve to have that responsibility over your own children, not hers.
Do you pay rent? if not, is babysitting a baby sitting a condition of you staying there? If not, family are ah’s. Plain & simple. Leave as quick as you can
The fact tha tyour brother experiences the same thing shows the problem isnt you. Its the expectations being put on you.
NTA being an aunt doesn’t automatically make you the unpaid babysitter and errand service.
NTA…
Move out…and as far away as possible.
NTA. Move. Out. Now.
You don’t say how old your brother is but maybe the two of you can get a place together and let your entitled sister deal with her kids herself. If your mom and dad complain they can step in and deal with her.
Not your kids, not your problem.
Nta. Move with brother.
Sis will never learn if everyone keeps filling the gap