Hello. i (25F) have been seeing a guy(28M) for a little over a month and it has been really sweet. I think on a beginning level we do like each other, but we both want to not rush and see things at a rational pace.
Now, last weekend we were on a date and it was a really sweet time. But I have noticed – ans know – that both of us tens to get anxious over some topics. We both are not from the same nationality and sometimes it gets hard to express, but after a few more sentences we are always able to.explain ourselves. But I felt it was a worry for him of not being fluent in expressing and I wanted to console and mean it that it actually is not a big deal, qnd I understand him and he should not qorry about it. So, I sent a message on Momday morning saying hey you should relax around me, and I would like to provide a good environment. But maybe I said it in a way that highlighted the language issue more than it needed. So I quickly also texted okay maybe we dont need to talk now on a monday morning and can talk more when we meet later. All of these were quick and panick-y messages. .I could sense that it made him weary and highlighted something that probably was not even an issue. Later we had a call, and he did say yes I was upset because it was out of nowhere and had no space to discuss and it would probably lead us to thinking what each other is thinking. Because its not like we are a couple, but still seeing that out, maybe we would or would not hard to say. we do like spending time with each other and dont know how it will go. And yes he is more comfortable in his native language but he does not have a problem expressing himself and it was a something he did not know to respond to. Later that day I got my periods, and maybe it sounds like an excuse but I cannot highlight how terrible cramps and mood swings I get during my pre and periods time.
I also kind of had emotional conversations with my friends and croed over stupid things. But with him and I, I can feel a step back on his end where I can feel him reconsidering. You know the gut feel you get after dating enough? that.
And I know I fucked up. I apologised as well. He also heard and we are having fleeting conversations since that are unattached. And I cannot stop catastrophising my mistake.
For that short amount of time of knowing each other, did I do an extreme asshole-y move that was too insensitive?