I, 20M, live with my parents and two younger sisters, 13 and 17. I have to share a bathroom with them. I have always been really cool about it; they use my stuff sometimes, which made me a little upset since I buy all my own things with my own money, so I brought it up to my mother. She told me if I had an issue to keep my stuff in my room. So I do, I keep all my stuff in my room, including all my laundry, toothbrush/toothpaste, towels, shampoo, soap, etc. Recently, they’ve gotten a lot worse about our shared bathroom. I found out my mother decided she was tired of cleaning up both of my sisters’ messes in our bathroom, so she stopped. Reasonable on her. But now it’s a nightmare to use. Clothes everywhere, empty shampoo bottles covering the floor of the shower, used tissues on th sink. Most of it isn’t a big deal to me. The big thing that bothers me is that they leave their USED feminine hygiene products on the floor. No flushing them down the toilet, no throwing them in the trash. Just laying on the floor. I’m just fed up. I asked my mother to talk to them both. They both denied it was theirs. My mother gave up on trying to reason with them. I had to clean it up because I couldn’t tolerate it anymore. Clothes two feet from the hamper. Mucus stained in the sink nobody bothered to rinse down the drain. My hairgel I hid in the bathroom that was brand new completely scooped out of the jar and used. And the hygiene products. Used tampons half hanging off the trash can. Used pads face down on the floor. So I yelled at them. They both cried, they told me that I shouldn’t get to speak on that topic, that I have no idea what they’re going through. I totally get that it sucks, and I don’t have an idea what they’re going through, but I’m tired of living in a pigsty. It’s disgusting and they’re not fixing it. I don’t know what to do anymore. Am I an asshole? Am I in the wrong? What should I do? I can’t afford to move out even though I want to.
You can just tell them their nasty habit will end up in infection that harms them their whole life.
My aunties use that method all the time whenever a kid reach puberty.
NTA keep yelling. Maybe it will actually motivate them.
You might think about starting to use your parents bathroom. I mean, it’s unsanitary for you to be forced to live like that. NTA.
Absolutely NTA, it’s vile. Keep doing your best to teach them responsibility. But just FYI, don’t flush tampons down the toilet but only dispose of them in the trash.
Their problem that you can’t talk about becomes YOUR problem that you have to talk about when they leave it lying on the public bathroom floor.
Personally? Take pictures and send it to the girls. Then a group chat with girls/mom. Then I’d start adding other people. Eventually I’d start taking pictures and posting it to facebook. Start a blog about “Life with teenage girls” or something of the like.
Its one thing to leave your toothbrush out… it’s another to leave THAT isht lying out.
Maybe start dropping their stuff into a pile. Toothbrush and used products and mucus plugs all in a fun little pile for them to deal with.
You’re not the parent so it sucks that the parent isn’t doing her job.
NTA, that’s basic hygiene. Also feminine products CANNOT be flushed down the toilet as it will clog the pipes FYI.
Will keep this in mind if I’m forced to clean the bathroom again thank you
I hope you put that nasty ish on their beds for them to deal with.
That was my thought, even as a women myself this is downright disgusting leaving biohazards out. Blood is a biohazard and no one should have to touch it. Finally OP does get to talk about it when he has to share a living space they are using as a trash can and stealing his things
NTA.
I’m female, and I wouldn’t tolerate sharing a bathroom with someone who couldn’t be bothered disposing of pads and tampons properly.
Menstruation is a perfectly natural process and not shameful. But so are urination and defecation, and you wouldn’t piss or shit on the bathroom floor or toilet seat and walk away without bothering to clean it up. You wouldn’t toss your used toilet paper on the floor and leave it there for someone else to deal with. The same goes for menstrual products.
Put simply, it is rude and disgusting to subject other people to your bodily waste products. Tampons and pads should be wrapped completely so the contents aren’t visible (wrapping with toilet paper is fine) and deposited in a bin, ideally one with a lid.
No exceptions, no excuses.
Your sisters are behaving like pigs, and will be in for a rude shock when they’re old enough to share living spaces with people who aren’t family. No one will want to be their roommate.
No they are being nasty and your mother should set down some ground rules about respect for common spaces. It would be nice if you could maybe have a heart to heart with them about it. Maybe ask them if they want to be dirty pig people the rest of their lives.
NTA. As a female myself, this is appalling. They are creating a disgusting biohazard. Give your mother 2 options. You use your parents bathroom (you eill leave it clean and tidy afterwards) or she talks to her daughters about how foul and disgusting they are being.
Start taking photos and if the sisters turn anyone against you, you show them the images of the mess they leave
You can never ever flush feminine hygiene items — like tampons, flushable wipes, and sanitary napkins (pads) — down the toilet. It will clog up your pipes and result in very very big plumbing bills. Seriously.
It’s time to sit with mom and the girls and make some ground rules for the bathroom.
NTA.
NTA.
Take pictures. A few.
Show them the worst.
Say “If I look at these pictures, and I look at the bathroom, if the bathroom ever looks like these pictures again, Then I will post these to Instagram so the world can see what kind of people my sisters are”
Problem solved