It was my(18m) sister(25)’s wedding. She and our cousins were dancing with their partners. I was having cake and coffee when our uncle sat down next to me(he’s actually my mom’s first cousin but I address him as uncle due to our age difference and relationship dynamic).
He then asked me if it’s true that I got an exemption for the English Language Skills course that first year students at my university have to take because of my test score. I told him yes. Then he told me his assistant recently quit her job and that he needs a new one. He said my main job will be to translate documents for him, both from English to our language and our language to English, and to help him communicate with foreign suppliers.
I listened to him describe the job and asked a few questions for a while until my mom came over and asked what we were talking about. When she found out, she got upset. She said to me ‘It’s your sister’s wedding. You should be celebrating with everyone else.’ So I went and danced with one of my other sister(20)’s friends(20f). But our mom still seemed irritated.
NTA, and very weird that your mom is mad about you speaking to your uncle about a potential job. It sounds like your language skills are advanced and having work experience in a bilingual setting could be beneficial for whatever job you end up seeking as a career, no matter what you’re currently studying at university
Absolutely NTA ! Call your uncle right away that you are interested in the job !
Policing conversation topics is such a petty, childish thing to do. Imagine getting upset over what other people are talking about.
NTA
NTA, especially as he initiated the chat
By the way your post is written, it seems like you have better English language skills than most native speakers.
NTA, and that job experience could definitely be valuable. Just make sure you’re getting paid fairly for your skill set.
I wonder if her comment was more a dig at your moms cousin than it was with you. Because as a mom, I would love to see my son networking because of his language skills, it would make me feel proud and happy for both of my children. Maybe there’s some history there you aren’t aware of.
NTA
I think your mother was peeved at your uncle and not at you, but any way you slice it, that isn’t a very reasonable reaction. Glad you had fun at the wedding and congratulations on your academic successes and the potential new job!
Errr that’s sort of the most common way adults typically socialise?
Would it be any better if you were talking about a ball-related sport?
Mom is overly controlling. That’s what people do at social functions (i.e., weddings, funerals, birthdays etc) is have conversation that interests them. Your mom does not get to dictate what the conversation is. She should have been less worried about telling you what to do and more concerned with doing what makes her happy. But if dictating your every action is what makes her happy then you’re in trouble
NTA.
NTA. You were having a polite conversation between the two of you. There was nothing wrong with that. Honestly, what you were talking about was none of your mother’s business.
Were you supposed to only discuss the wedding and the bride and groom the entire time? NTA
Talk about whatever you like especially when no one can overhear.
Your Mom was being petty over nothing.
NTA. You didn’t initiate the talk, your uncle approached you while you were simply eating cake. You were polite to a relative and immediately shifted back to the party once your mom asked, so you did nothing wrong.