I (M24) am hanging out with my family. My dad, as far as i remember, has always been the type of guy to always expect something whenever he asked for it. Even when others were occupied. And it’s not like he can’t or couldn’t do it himself. Earlier today, he asked my sister (who is visiting) to make coffee.
I jokingly said "But you know how to make coffee." And he actually got offended, said he didn’t want any, and walked away. I didn’t even say it in a condescending tone or anything. It was in a joking manner, but it really rubbed him the wrong way, making my sister’s effort (who was working on the coffee) worthless.
Like… did I say something wrong? Or does my father just have a fragile ego? Am I the asshole?
NTA at all. He’s just shocked someone actually said something, finally
NTA, not a mature response from your father.
NTA he’s lazy, selfish and very immature.
NTA. Your dad made at least 2 kids, he can make coffee.
Hit dogs will holler (Or in this case, pout). NTA
“Are your arms broken?” has been heard many times in our family. If she’s already making coffee and he asks for a cup, that’s one thing, but if everyone is chilling and you want the coffee, you make the coffee. NTA
NTA. You gave your dad a look at his privilege.
NTA. This sounds like a classic dad power move getting lightly poked and him not liking it. You didn’t insult him, you pointed out a fact. If that’s enough to make him storm off, that’s on him, not you
NTA. Your dad is asserting control like his word is the law. He needs to grow up.
NTA.
Parents of adult children need to learn to relate to them as adults. That doesn’t come naturally to some people.
Nta unless one of the pets was sleeping on him of course. Then he can’t move
NTA. Sounds like he wants a woman to wait on him because that’s “their job”. Ugh.
My brother is like this with his wife. Ugh. It’s why I only see him at family gatherings.
No, he’s not stupid enough to pull this ish on mom or me. Just his wife. Who works more hours than he does, now that he’s partially retired.
So gross. Definitely NTA.
He’s one of those men who have been coddled by the patriarchy. He doesn’t make coffee because the woman makes coffee. Meaning your sister.