One of my friends from high school moved interstate for college and was planning a trip down to catch up with friends. She drove down in her RV and is staying at a caravan park. We had planned a big catch up event for this Saturday, and my friend arrived yesterday.
When we were planning the trip, she mentioned that she was wanting to bring her two dogs with her (a golden retriever and a Great Dane) with her and asked if that would be an issue for me. I said it would be fine, because she assured me her dogs were well behaved, as long as they stayed in the yard.
She came over yesterday to say hi, and had the dogs with her. We had coffee in the backyard and the dogs honestly were a lot more energetic than I had imagined. As soon as she let them off the leash they zoomed off around the yard and began peeing on everything, including flowers, the lawn, pot plants, etc. The dane in particular was extremely badly behaved and took a long pee up the side wall of the house as well. I think my friend sensed my discomfort as she poured some water from her bottle onto the wall. One of the dogs also proceeded to poop right on the middle of the back porch (which my friend looked embarrassed when she picked up).
I asked my friend if she would mind not bringing the dogs on Saturday because they are just too much. She says that she had asked me in advance and I’ve left her in an awkward situation since she doesn’t have anyone to look after the dogs. She said that if they are outside, and we are inside, we won’t notice them. She also said that the only reason they were so energetic was because they’d come off a long car ride down. She said she’d take them to pee and poo beforehand so it’s not as big of an issue. I told her that it’s not my problem and that she lied about them being well behaved.
I don’t think anyones the asshole here. You’re not the asshole for changing your mind and she’s not the asshole for being caught off guard. Dogs are fickle. Whether they are well behaved or not is unpredictable. My dog will be well behaved 99% of the time minus the 1% of the time I need her to be. They’re animals.
It’s your choice whether or not you let them on your property but I”m fairly positive within like 30 mins or so the dogs will calm down and act normal.
YTA for thinking that dogs pooping and peeing in the exact spot they are supposed to pee and poop (outside, on plants) equals them misbehaving. You told her she could bring them over no problem, so now if you want to see her, you’ll need to get over the fact that dogs pee outside.
Are they supposed to poop on the porch, too? Because my friends’ well behaved dogs don’t do that.
Wow… dogs peeing, pooping and running outside… where are your friends dogs supposed to go?! YTA
One of them took a dump on her porch…that’s not good behaviour.
…ish. Pooping and peeing does not constitute bad behavior.
Even when it’s on her porch? I’m a dog lover, my dogs not always the best behaved, but she knows not to shit on the porch.
Yta being energetic and badly behaved are not the same thing
Pooping on the porch is definitely a bit much. Friend seemed caught off guard but should have known better as the dogs’ owner that they needed to burn off some energy first.
NTA
I don’t think the dogs sound badly behaved; they just sound way more energetic than you’d anticipated, even though this energetic behavior sounds normal. Well-behaved dogs that need to relieve themselves, when let loose in a back yard, may well run around and do so.
That said, even if you’d signed in blood that those dogs could come over, you get to change your mind. It’s your house, and now that you’ve seen the dogs, you know that they make you uncomfortable.
You get to change your mind. Your friend doesn’t get to dictate that having met her dogs, you have to stick with your original permission.
NTH
nah. it sounds like her explanation is valid. but your definition of well-behaved doesn’t match hers and you have the right to change your mind.
YTA Pooping and peeing is normal, as long as she picks up the poo. Watering the pee down was actually really considerate of her.
You are entitled to change your mind, however, there are other ways to address your concerns. Her offering to walk them before hand addresses your concerns of pottying in the yard and high energy. What do you imagine the worst case scenario is if you allow them in the back yard on Saturday? That theres poo and pee to clean? Because it sounds like she will gladly address that.
True bad behavior would be digging holes in your yard, chewing on furniture, eating your flowers, scratching fencing or patio furniture. Her dogs were very well behaved.
NAH. It’s your home and you have every right to allow or disallow dogs, but other than the porch accident (which she quickly cleaned up), it sounds like the dogs didn’t actually do anything?
Dogs pee. Most animals pee. Your yard has been peed, shat, and puked on by all kinds of creatures big and small. Then the rain comes and washes it away.
Running around doesn’t sound bad either…I assume if they were knocking things or people over or being destructive, you would have said that. So … You’re not an ah, but you don’t seem to have realistic expectations for dogs. At least energetic breeds.
NTA, because you’re allowed to change your mind., But they just seem like dogs acting like dogs.