Our water was shut off today temporarily, and we both had to use the bathroom. I went first, and used the running water from our RO system to wash my hands, since that was the only option besides hand sanitizer. After my wife used the bathroom she immediately sat on the couch next to me, and I asked her “are you going to wash your hands?” She said that she’s not using our only drinking water to wash her hands. That would be understandable, but the plumber will be here within the hour to fix the problem. And also we can go to the store if we really run out of water. I said well at least use hand sanitizer and she said her hands were clean, and then she informed me that she doesn’t wash her hands every time she poops! I told her that’s disgusting and horrible hygiene. She said if she doesn’t get poop on her hands she doesn’t wash. I again said that’s disgusting and horrible hygiene practice. She thinks I’m overreacting and being an asshole, and now she’s refusing to talk to me until I apologize. I don’t think I need to apologize for anything, and I’m not overreacting. So was I being an asshole or am I overreacting? Is that not disgusting?
I would hold your ground and tell her to go ask for a second opinion if she disagrees. She could ask her doctor.
NTA of course. Shame (in appropriate and small doses) can be a tool to increase human decency, which apparently she needs. Also what other gross hygiene issues does she have? I would be worried about more.
That is super disgusting of your wife & it’s very unhygienic. I wouldn’t be surprised if she gets sick a lot.
She does…. I said that’s probably why you get sick all the time. Now she thinks I’m shaming her and won’t speak to me
This is a situation where she should be shamed!
show her the mythbuster hygine episode. just because you can’t see the bacteria doesn’t mean it’s not there.
That’s what I told her. I’m a microbiologist so I thought she’d listen to that reasoning from me.
Oh HELL NO. You’re a microbiologist too? Sheesh, prepare a very basic lesson for her, with a slide show if necessary. 🤮
I think a slideshow would be a little toxic lol
She’s more than a little toxic, literally. Lol
It’s amazing she doesn’t seem to think your degree means anything.
You know what is toxic? **Human feces.**
Wishing you the best with Typhoid Mary.
NTA
That’s disgusting. I wonder how many times you guys have had “tummy bugs” that were actually food poisoning from her fecal bacteria that you ate. You need to wash your hands every time after using the toilet, but ESPECIALLY after you poop
Bro that’s exactly what I said to her. I get a stomach bug very often.
That’s pretty scary dude. I can’t help but think how many meals you’ve eaten without knowing she pooped and didn’t wash her hands before preparing 🤢.
NTA. That’s how I got the Norovirus on a plane. Tell her to wash her damn hands if not for herself for other people!!