Hi, my fiancée and I have our wedding in April. The owner of the wedding venue’s son was a friend of mine when we were in college, and as a result we were able to get a sizeable discount, which obviously we’re both happy about.
Yesterday we were hosting some friends and family, and the topic of our honeymoon came up. I said that we were looking at tickets, theres a direct flight and one with a layover, so we were going with the layover one because it was a long layover and we could see that city for a bit too. Someone said yeah and layovers are usually cheaper too, save that money, you guys would’ve just spent money on a wedding. I mentioned that we had been fortunate that we got the venue at a huge discount and they were just like thats great good for you.
After everyone had left my fiancee was upset with me for telling them that. She said there was no need to tell them that. I said we secured a great deal, thats a win, whats the harm in telling them that, she said this was something I should have discussed with her before saying and that it ruined the place in their minds. I said no it didn’t its still the same place, same vibe, same everything.
Today I’ve been thinking about it and wondering if I was in the wrong and if so apologies and flowers on the way home might be in order. Was I TA?
NTA – its not that deep it’s literally just a discount
Thank you, and they were happy for us too.
Your fiancee is upset because she wanted everyone to think you paid full price because she wants everyone to think that your wedding is as expensive as she can possibly make them think. Which is kind of a red flag. She should be grateful and happy about the discount. Not embarrassed about it.
Ewww sounds like your fiancée cares more about making things look expensive than being happy to be getting married and getting a deal. NTA but she gives the ick
This is the vibe I get too. Like how dare he make them look cheap by letting everyone know they got a discount vibe
NTA. If you didn’t name numbers then you’re golden. Sounds like she’s status conscious.
***”my fiancee was upset with me for telling them that. She said there was no need to tell them that.”***
\—A totally innocuous harmless comment about a discount? You best get used to a life of being controlled because that is where you are headed.
***”apologies and flowers on the way home might be in order.”***
\—The ultimate in rewarding, enabling and encouraging outrageously control freak behavior. The future is grim unless you nip this in the bud now internet friend.
NTA. Your fiancee is worried about her wedding looking cheap.
But you might have betrayed your friend for hooking you up. Now others might try to negotiate down.
> it ruined the place in their minds
Mind reading.
Projection.
Valuing perceived status.
The flags are waving.
NTA