My boyfriend and I let a friend he’s known since childhood stay at our place because housing is expensive and her university is nearby. She stays here five days a week and goes home on weekends.
We don’t charge her rent, and we pay for utilities and groceries while she’s here. She has her own bathroom and full access to basically everything, things the kitchen, pool, sauna etc.
Her bedroom isn’t next to ours. Between our bedroom and her space is a computer/working room, and her bathroom is also in between, so there’s some separation.
A few months ago, she told us she could hear us being intimate at night, and it made her uncomfortable. We said we’d try to be quieter when she’s around. Since then, she has brought it up multiple times.
Recently, she asked if she could switch rooms. The only rooms we could realistically swap would be the one my seven-year-old sister uses when she sleeps over or my hobby room. All the other rooms are already set up permanently. We don’t want to rearrange our home for this, especially since we intended to help her out.
After the latest complaint, I told her calmly but firmly that we’ve adjusted as much as we think is fair. I said if this will keep being an issue, maybe this living situation just isn’t a good fit, and she might need to find another place to stay. She thinks I’m being unfair.
AITA?