So I joined a new gym in August and ended up getting a personal trainer (pt). Me and my pt actually ended up becoming friends and close outside of the gym. About a week ago, I had the opportunity to pay off my PT sessions at a discounted rate so I took it just to finish my sessions, which she knows this because she’s the one who told me her boss said so. Just over the weekend is when she quit PT to work a different department in the gym (which I find out after I pay). In doing so, the director of PT reassigned her clients to other trainers, me being one to get reassigned obviously. My friend/pt feel like the director is somewhat playing with her money bc he began reassignment before she officially left.
So, The other day, she calls me and explains to me that she feel a way that I am choosing to continue training with somebody else because her other clients have decided to waste their money and quit their sessions when she quit training. She says how she talked to some of them and they said it sounds like I’m not loyal and I’m choosing training over loyalty since we’ve formed a friendship outside of the gym. Ummmmmm NO I’m choosing not to waste my money??? Then she continues by saying she understands why I would continue to train bc I spent my money but then doubles down and say she thinks I shouldn’t continue bc it seems “unloyal”. I think this is a case of misdirected anger because I think she really wanted to call her boss and express to him how she felt but she knows she can’t do that so she called somebody else (me). Like I still don’t know what I did wrong if I did anything?? Nor do I do well with people placing misdirected anger on me bc that’s just super unnecessary negativity energy. AITA?
NTA shes been ridiculous
“Hey, I know that you go here to train, but I, personally, am not a trainer there anymore, so you should stop training altogether” See how silly that sounds? NTA, but she sure is for trying to leverage a friendship to guilt trip you.
NTA. Not wasting money is better than upholding her warped perception of loyalty.
And those other people who talked to her are just trying to stir up drama.
NTA. I agree, this sounds like misdirected anger. Sounds like she feels she can‘t direct it at her boss. If you wanted to be supportive, the best option would be to say you want to continue training with your friend until she actually transfers. That’s something you have the ability to do to support her without harming yourself.
NTA
She expects you to just…not train?
That’s unreasonable.
She’s of course being unreasonable, and others are saying she’s directing her anger at her boss to you, but I don’t get why she’s even angry at her boss. She quit as a trainer. What was her boss supposed to do? Tell her clients they need to find another gym? This makes no sense.
NTA. She’s unreasonable
NTA OP – this is ridiculous.
You may want to reassess this ‘friendship’.
FWIW, if she really was your friend she’d have your best interest in mind and encourage you to keep training. SHE chose to transfer – what did SHE do to help YOU continue your journey?
Answer – nothing. In fact WORSE than nothing – she expects you to give it up out of some sense of loyalty for a decision/move SHE made VOLUNTARILY.
Does not sound like something a ‘friend’ would do.
NTA
Whaaaaaaat?????? I think your ‘friend’ might have just spewed one of the biggest crocks of ssstuff I’ve ever read on this forum.
NTA
In fact, you may want to tell the PT director that she is pressuring her former clients to not use other trainers to get the services they have already paid for… because she thinks it’s more important for her clients to show their loyalty to her.
I’m trying to imagine what she gets out doing this.
\- If her transfer is involuntary (a disciplinary action), that might be why she wants her former clients to be ‘loyal’ to her.
\- The only other thing I can remotely imagine is that this is some ploy for her to claim that she should receive payment from the unused revenue of her ‘loyal’ clients (though I can’t really call this logical in any way).
I wouldn’t trust this person (her word, her reasonableness, her actually caring about you as a person…).
NTA
This isn’t misdirected anger based on her comments. What she is saying is she is more important and should be treated as such.
This is pure manipulation – she is trying to control you to make herself the top of the food chain.
I hope you laughed at her and hung up.
NTA. Your contract is with the gym, not your PT. She’s being very unprofessional and what she’s doing is grounds for complaint to the gym.
And if we’re talking about loyalty, she quit you first when she stopped training you. Reflect on that.
NTA You should tell her she chose money over loyalty because she knew you had more training sessions left yet she moved to another department before you were finished.