i (25F) am a bridesmaid for my cousin (28F). she told all of us we needed to adjust our appearance for her wedding, which i assumed she meant just simple stuff like hair or nails or whatever lol. instead, she pulled me aside and said i need to stop going to the gym until after the wedding because my body is too distracting??? and she doesn’t want people comparing us in photos. tbh i cant beleive she said that lolll. i genuinely laughed because i thought she was joking yk but girl she wasn’t. she got upset and said i was being selfish for prioritizing my fitness hobby over her one special day. i told her maybe the issue isn’t my body but her insecurity. now she’s crying to the whole family saying i body shamed her and ruined her wedding energy. everyone’s pressuring me to apologize, but i honestly don’t think i did anything wrong T\_T AITA?
NTA and refuse to be a bridesmaid. This is just the start of the wild requests coming.
NTA because you shouldn’t be allowed to regulate others’ exercise over wedding photos. Like I could understand requests for outfits (within reason), but lifestyle changes are a no-go.
NTA. Your cousin is a lunatic. Her insecurities are not your problem.
NTAH! My sister is trying to do something very similar and it’s not ok.
nta. asking you to stop working out is so wild, i have no doubt she’d ask one of her other bridesmaids were pregnant and even slightly showing to cover up or step down
no darling you are not the ahole. she is very obviously struggling with insecurities. therefore try to be nice but keep those boundries strong. dont apologize. dont sacrifice your physical wellbeing to make her happy. she was body shaming you actually, and it’s audacious to run her mouth to the rest of yalls family that you were body shaming her. stay strong girly.
NTA. Respectfully decline explaining that you can’t confirm to her wishes.
This is not a fiasco you want to be part of.
Seriously?!! How is there any confusion here? NTA.
NTA. She is delusional to think she can ask that of someone. How immature
She just body shamed you too…
Step down from being a bridesmaid. There is more drama to come
Family that loves their family don’t make ridiculous demands.
Yeah … no. Just no. Put your hair up, get the same nail polish … no problem. Stop going to the gym? That’s not a reasonable request. Id probably tell her that you’re no longer able to be a bridesmaid. Definitely NTA
I’d double down and go to the gym twice as often and when you’re standing next to her at the altar, flex your muscles and drop down and do 20 one handed pushups! JK but I would definitely decline her invitation to be a member of the Wedding Party…. You’re setting yourself up for more drama and headaches