so right off the bat, I can fully acknowledge I was an asshole for the way I tried to start it – coming in and snarking on a government official’s speech about immigration control in our country (iykyk), and then demanding to see proof/sources when Mom/Stepdad told me something I questioned (and they were genuinely just having a conversation, being on the same side of politics (opposite mine)). but then it turned into a whole rant from Mom about what an argumentative, ungrateful little asshole I was for daring to disrespect her like I had…by asking for proof on a statement, albeit in a rude way? anyway whenever she rants like this, she cannot let me (or anyone opposite her here, I’m guessing) get a word in edgewise or explain myself or even try to de-escalate (or even \*do involuntary things like tapping my foot\*) without her ripping into me further for my disrespect, insisting it’s all because I never listen and she has the right to go off completely like this. it’s like she just wants the chance to rant, which I guess she’s owed b/c her life is genuinely stressful and my dumb antics don’t do much for that (even though I really try to help her out). like, again I know I’m definitely an asshole here, but I guess I just wanna know whether or not she was being one too? and maybe what I can do to help avoid shit like this in the future? thx
both of you got heated maybe pick a calmer time to debate next.
Was she watching FOX? It’s 2 a.m. you should be in bed. Can’t debate ppl like that. Just let it go for your own sanity & health. edit: Oh you might be on the West Coast so 11. Either way go to bed.
this was hours ago as she was making dinner. I forgot what channel it was specifically, but they were watching Karoline Leavitt’s speech about ICE in Minnesota
Shows how messed up things are when you don’t even have to say what country you’re from & ppl just know. For my health & Blood pressure can’t even watch news anymore. My family is brainwashed by FOX news. All they will watch to in their words “get the real news”
If you want to avoid things like this, I guess you might have to have a different approach.
It sounds like you didn’t have much respect for her POV and it showed up when you spoke to her.
And based on your post you mentioned that she (and stepdad) wanted to have a genuine conversation about it….
She made it personal and went on a rant… I doubt this is the first time something like this has happened before. So it’s look like a pattern of how things happened. The reason for the pattern I can only assume is the dynamic between you both for so many years.
So is she an A**hole…. A little bit but when someone is being one to you, you might have to match that type of energy.