Burner account, I wont reply to many things, the website was temu and I wont disclose ages because I don’t feel like sharing my brothers ages.
I sent my younger brother a link, told him to delete it after I did a verification thing. To actually use the app you have to use a phone number. a week later 2 of my brothers bought 2 things around \~$20. I got in trouble and tried to explain that I tried to stop my brothers but they didnt listen and kept using the app. He took my moms number and card aswell. AITA?
EDIT: She got it refunded and isnt as mad as she was, I explained that i tried to get them to stop before hand but couldn’t in the moment and she understood.
I’ll leave this page for about a day and then go of there.
The answer is the same as before. Your brother is WAY too young to be using Temu, as are you. You encouraged your adolescent brother to use an app he shouldn’t, then tried to get him to delete it, to protect yourself.
YTA, and not mature enough to be using Temu (or an unsupervised phone).
What’s your reasoning for not including ages? If this is indeed a burner it’s harder to link back to you and ages can provide more in the way of context.
NTA.
You didn’t authorize the purchases, you told your brother to delete the app, and you didn’t give permission to use your mom’s number or card. That’s on them, not you. You can’t be held responsible for other people continuing to use something after you explicitly told them not to.
That said, in the future it’s best not to involve siblings at all in apps that require phone numbers or verification, especially if payment info is attached. But this situation doesn’t make you the asshole, it just means boundaries were crossed by others.
He’s leaving out that his younger brother is a child, and not mature enough to be trusted with Temu.
Hard disagree. When you’re the older sibling, it *is* your responsibility to make the most mature choices for both of you. Of course the brother holds fault in using the link; but OP shouldn’t have sent it to him in the first place. Both can be true at the same time. ETA
I don’t even understand what happened here. Did the link you sent connect to your mother’s card? Or did your brother get your link, get your mother’s card details, and then make the purchase? Why did you send your brother the link if you didn’t want him to make the purchase?
Edit!
That’s good news. Still have no clue what really happened but glad it worked out for you.
Next time if you are trying to get your link sent out or whatever for points with Temu, download an app where you can create a fake # to send it to or make a backup account somewhere. Don’t send it to your little brother and dangle it in front of his face & expect him to listen when you say “Don’t use the link I just sent you!!” Temu is designed to be addictive and show people targeted items.
YTA. Be a better big sibling
YTA, im assuming you dont want to share your brothers ages because they are between 10 and 14 and im guessing you are over 16.
So based on my assumption you gave a young child access to Temu thinking they would delete it just because you asked them too. You didn’t check to make sure they did delete it and they found a bank card and bought things.
Their is a reason children are deemed not responsible for their actions and its because their parents and guardians are supposed to make sure they dont do things they are not supposed to
Did you tell their parents you gave them access to Temu?
OP is years younger than that, which means that the younger brother is a child.