Recently I went bowling with some friends. I won by 15 points, and I posted a tiktok on my private account with 9 followers on it and I mentioned how about 6 months ago she called me bad at bowling and said that she wished that my mum had aborted me with a clothes hanger. I don’t actually care because of how unserious I am as a person. However, my tiktok had less than 5 seconds of footage of her 2 tiktoks she has uploaded. She got my friend to text me telling me to take it down, I did, but I feel like I didn’t need to. I did say some mean things jokingly about her too, and now she has said that was fine and not the problem. So to me it has been made clear that the probably ~3 seconds of footage of her is the only problem, however I don’t think that by law or ethically this is a problem and even though her account is private mine is too, and I think all of my 9 followers or most of them are also following her. Even if not, then she still shouldn’t have said that I should’ve been aborted. Can/should I repost my video, my friends who did see it found it funny and I’m pretty proud of it, and don’t see a problem. After all, all the people seeing it on my account see her very often too.
AITA?
It’s just a video, you’ll make more.
That girl sucks, don’t be friends with people who make abortion jokes – especially about you. She has a lot of growing up to do.
Idk even know what that mess of a story is, but…
Just because someone else is mean, doesn’t mean you should retaliate with that same meanness. Rise above, let miserable people be miserable on their own.
lol same energy as “make sure not to fight back when the bullies hit you…. be the bigger person”
ESH everyone involved sounds exhausting. I sincerely hope you’re all 14, because I can’t imagine an adult making this big of a deal out of any of this.
You definitely didn’t have to post that original post but comparative to what she posted after (which is wild) she’s definitely not in the right either. I think the fact that both of you have lowkey private accounts makes the situation better and less impactful. I’d say just ignore her
This sounds like a drama moshpit…yeah someone else was an asshole to you sure but what you did wasn’t much better in concept. Sounds like you just shouldnt associate with that person
This is , ladies and gentlemen, are the rabling of a 12yo with Internet.
Someone take this kids phone away
Your post starting with “I won by 15 points” already has me skeptical about your ability to not be an asshole
Sounds like you both have some serious issues with emotional maturity. Maybe put down the bowling ball and pick up a book on empathy instead?
NAH
You didn’t think you were crossing a line. She asked you to take it down. You did. End of conflict.
But everyone here dismissing this as childish is missing the point. It’s about posting videos of other people without their consent.
You want to post a video of yourself talking about them? Fine.
Someone is in public and they are in the background, but not otherwise tagged or mentioned? Also fine.
Someone is in public, featured but not really identified? Gray area, but probably should avoid.
Person is featured, discussed and identified? For any length of time. Get their consent beforehand.
All this gets ratcheted up to 10 when parents have a policy about keeping their children’s image and likeness off social media. So it is potentially quite serious to that family.
The last holdout of “is this AI or not?” is the drama of tweens/teens. I believe this is real bevause it’s too petty and immature for AI to think up yet.
NTA it’s good to embarrass assholes like her.