My family, including my grandma who I don’t get to see often, is coming for my (23f) graduation. However my bf (23m) is graduating a day after me so I will be attending his graduation in the morning. My dad (66M) says I am the asshole for planning on going to dinner with bf and his whole family one of the nights my family is in town. The dinner is late at night so I promised I would eat lunch and spend the whole afternoon with family. I will also be spending the rest of my family’s time in my city with them too. Am I being unreasonable? I have been with my bf for over 6 years (dad hates him though) and we have a serious relationship. I will see family for two and a half full days at least but my dad says I am being rude
You’re 23, who gives a fuck 🤷🏻♂️.
Real concern is why your dad don’t like him. Maybe he has a legit reason. Maybe not.
It’s mostly religion related hatred. My bf doesn’t go to church. I also don’t have a good relationship with my parents because they want me to go to medical school but I don’t want to, so they are always disappointed in me regardless of how successful I have been in college 🙁
Sorry to hear…do what makes you happy. Your parents are adults just like you.
I’m sorry your parents are missing the whole point of having children! We all deserve parents who love us for who we are and find joy in watching us choose our own paths. NTA for making time to celebrate an incredibly important life event with the person you love.
Nta regardless of what the reason could be that he hates your boyfriend. Sounds like he’s taking the hatred of your boyfriend out on you. Your plans are reasonable.
NTA. Your dad is being unreasonable. You are totally spending time with your visiting family. But your bf is also celebrating a milestone and its important you celebrate with him and his family. I think your compromise of breakfast and lunch is reasonable.
You are nta, your dad on the other hand is a major AH! You’ve given plenty of notice what your schedule is, that’s it… case closed.
NTA your dad is being ridiculous
Nta
No. You are good. Seems like a reasonable plan. It’s your parents loss for not being close enough with your bf and his family to join the celebration and give a gift. Also to have their family join n with yours.
NTA your father is trying to cause problems because he doesn’t like your boyfriend. Don’t allow him that power and don’t feel guilty.
It seems that no matter what you do, your dad won’t like it. You’ll never make him happy, so why bother? Set boundaries now, if you marry the bf and grandkids happen, he will have more to be upset about
NTA
NTA, I’d text them, “I really appreciate you all coming for my graduation and I’m looking forward to celebrating with you. Just to clarify, it’s also my boyfriend’s graduation so I’m attending his graduation and graduation dinner, but the rest of the time, I’ll spend with you.”