Dad and I were already not in a good mood, and it was after a long ar ride home from skiing. He threw some pizza in the oven while my sister and I unpacked. When I came up, he was watching a movie, so I decided to grab my pizza and go upstairs to watch my own show. Then, when he asked me where I was going, I responded in the same way he would’ve (and has). I paused, gazed towards the stairs, and said after a long pause… Where do you think? He said, upstairs? And I said yeah, pretty sarcastivally but he does the same thing to me, so I don’t understand why it would be wrong for me to do it towards him. So then he goes "That’s rude…. and you’re welcome for dinner."
And then he confiscated my phone
We had so much fun earlier that day on the car ride, I don’t know what happened; something kind of flips the switch in him, and I just feel like the problem kid. I need answers fast. How do I bring it up to him that he talks the same way to me w/o punishment, and it hurts.
Of course YTA. Basically your dad organized and paid for a day of skiing. He drove you. Then he made you dinner. Then you decided that this was the perfect time to “teach him a lesson” by being rude and sarcastic, because sometimes he’s rude and sarcastic? Did I get that right?
Exactly!
Stop acting like an entitled brat.
Tit for tat is not an effective method of making your point.
how old are you OP?
YTA. If how he talks to you bothers you, then talk to him after the fact in a calm manner (i.e. “hey, earlier when you said x it seemed very sarcastic and hurt my feelings because y). You say he “flipped a switch” for no reason but for me the reason is very obviously because you were rude unprovoked to him after a nice day he provided. Would it have killed you to just say “i was thinking of having dinner in my room, is that ok? Thanks for the great day skiing”
When did your dad use the PA tone to you? Was it after you guys came home? Or did you mean when he asked you where you were going?
> I responded the same way he would’ve (and has)…
This sounded like you were referring to times in the past, not in that current situation right?
If you know how it makes you feel, why would you do it to someone else?
“PA tone”…??? WTF?
And yes, YTA.
Passive aggressive
Thanks.
You “don’t know what happened?” You know you were rude, and you’re confused why it made him upset? YTA. You’re focusing on the wrong thing here. The fact that he can talk that way and you can’t is not the problem. The fact that he talks to you that way is. Center the conversation around *that* if you want it to go anywhere, because as it is you just sound like you’re upset about being called out.
YTA – Your dad is tired after a long drive, so of course he will be burned out. You on the other hand were just disrespectful. Also be grateful he took your phone away, most of us would have gotten a smack in the head first then have our phone taken away.