Hello, I share a 2BHK with another person ‘X’. I was one of the original renters and she replaced my previous roommate. I had an existing cooktop that I was happy to share with X when she moved in. (No cost)
After about a year, the cooktop stopped working. We bought a new one and split the expenses equally.
To note, I rarely cook. She cooks regularly.
It’s been 5 months since the purchase and she went on a 15 day vacation. I noticed, by chance, that she had taken out the old cooktop out and put it on the counter and kept the new one inside. Seems very petty on her part since it is a shared equipment.
I am considering asking my half back and being petty about it. Or should I let it go since it barely affected me?
Some background –
We coexist, we don’t interact at all given our schedules.
Previous conflicts have been minor and I’ve overlooked some similar issues in the past.
I’m the messier roommate which I’m sure she doesn’t appreciate.
I’ve barely used either cooktops.
It’s broken, throw it away
The new one is inside on a shelf ( comment)
YTA
This is so petty, throw it away. I don’t know why the old was is outside but just toss it
To clarify, it’s a closed cabinet shelve and the cooktops were definitely swapped in their place.
It doenst matter
Just toss the old one and use the one on the shelf
It is still in your home
Had to re read that. So went on vacation and has taken the cooker with her? The one you paid half for? The. N T A it’s yours as well
No the new one is inside she just put the old one outside
Either op didn’t notice the old one sitting there for 5 months of housemate swapped them out when she left for her vacation
This doesn’t make sense. Do you have access to the new working cooktop.
If yes how did you not notice the old one sitting there for 5 months
I don’t really understand your problem. If the old one was broken it needs to be thrown away , so l assume it being ‘outside’ is preparatory to that?
Does the new cooktop being ‘inside’ mean locked in her room so you can’t get at it ? If not, l just don’t know what the issue is. Or are you saying you now wish you hadn’t paid for half of the new one and now want your money back?
The old one has been in one of the cabinets. It still works but occasionally changes settings. Not an issue for me since I don’t frequently. It was an issue for her. Understandable, so we decided to get a new one.
But we haven’t thrown it out yet.
New one was swapped in its place with the old.
Wait, so, do I have this right?
You and roommate go halfsies on a cooktop after the previous one broke.
You still have the old one
Roommate goes on vacation and puts the new one away in a cabinet and the old one on the counter.
So….. who cares? Like yeah, maybe she’s being petty, but again, who cares? She didn’t prevent you from using the new cooktop. YTA mostly just overreacting though.
Thank you. Fair, this seems to capture the whole situation.
Ok, ignore it. It’s not worth it.
It doesn’t really affect you and you don’t use the cooktop often. If you start a disagreement with your roommate it is very likely to spiral into something that does affect you and if you are the messier roommate, she had *lots* of fodder to throw at you.
It’s not necessarily a problem anyway, you have no idea why she swapped it out. If you are curious just ask? I could have been for an understandable reason.
NAH
I think everyone’s having a hard time understanding the story.
What I understood is that you both together a new cooktop, but she’s now keeping it just to herself, in her room, I assume, do you don’t have access to it, is that correct?
If yes, I understand you wanting your money back, whatever is common to both of you should be available to both of you. It was wrong of her to take it without discussing with you first
But you never use it, right? If she had asked, what would’ve been your answer? Would you be ok with her keeping it in her room? I’ve a feeling you would.
In that case, maybe the answer is just to tell her next time she needs to discuss with you, before changing things by herself.
ETA: YWBTA