My fiancé 26m and I 27f have been engaged for a little over a month, together 1.5 years in total. I’ve been paying for my own phone since I was like 20 and he’s on his parent’s phone plan.
The past month, my touch screen has slowly lost function and now no longer works. I’ve tried to have the issue repaired through warranty, but I’ll ultimately have to pay for a whole new phone. Way before my phone was having problems, my fiancé’s family offered to add me on their phone plan and cover the monthly cost, which is very nice of them. I didn’t accept the offer at first because I just have a hard time accepting gifts like that.
So here’s the situation, my phone is literally just a brick at this point and I’ve looked into getting a new phone (not expensive, but not cracked/damage). My fiancé is encouraging me to wait until Christmas when we travel to his family, and they will add me on their plan. He also mentioned that they would be getting me a new phone for Christmas. I’m struggling because I don’t want to expect his parents to buy me a phone for Christmas, and that means no one will be able to call/text me for at least another month.
He’s also encouraging me to wait because I begin a new job that will give me a work cell phone to use, and that I can just rely on this. I’m not completely comfortable with using my work phone for personal reasons and will still be missing calls/texts to my personal number for a month.
I’m completely fine with figuring out my next option for a phone on my own. Would I be the ah for getting a phone?
NTA. He shouldn’t be encouraging you to get on his family’s phone plan, you guys are adults.
It sounds like he knows they already got u a new phone for christmas to be on their plan. NTA for getting ur own, and I do think it’s weird their slight insistence u get on their plan after u declined. I don’t think they or he is the AH either. Just different dynamics. It’s ok to decline the offer. Nobody is wrong.
Yeah, don’t sign up for his parents’ plan. You guys should be moving towards more, not less, independence. And do what you want you don’t need his permission. Having a functional phone is not a luxury. Just go get a phone. You can get great deals if you sign up for a new service or trade in your crap one.
Actually NTA, you should both be on your own plan together and not with his family. No reason to still be tied to the family plan. Even if it’s cheaper there’s a privacy issue. Just my 2 cents.
Well I mean you need a phone now? It’s a nice thought but most people can’t even live their lives without a smart phone for a week nonetheless a month. Like what are you even doing right now if you need to call someone?
NTA. But would it really be alright to be on his family’s plan if you go through with it? Let’s say something happened to your relationship or your relationship with his parents and they might dangle the family plan and the cost of the new phone. What happens then?
Nta. Here’s why. When they add you to their plan they can see EVERYTHING! Depending on the company they can even read your text messages. They will know everyone who calls you and everyone you call. They can cyber stalk you. and if they’ve downloaded anything onto it they might be able to see everything you do. They control when you get a new phone. They control the phone you get. They control the amount of everything you’re allowed. Uh oh…went over your internet limit. You’re naughty.
Nope nope nope. Get your phone. Continue being an adult.
He’s making decisions that are yours to make. Just get your own phone.
I personally would not be comfortable being my parent’s phone plan as an adult, let alone future in-laws. NTA. It may be a sincere nice gesture, but you need a way not to depend on them in the event you need a quick replacement. Especially if they live any distance away.
NTA – you do realize that being on the family phone plan give them access to all your call and text history.
NTA. At this point in time, most adults need a phone to exist and live and work. A month is a VERY long time without a phone.
Don’t get on their phone plan, that is weird. You guys are adults. Get a new phone now. NTA
NTA and WTF?
No, you should not be getting on a phone plan with his childhood family. Many plans have a contractual period you need to remain on them once you are added, particularly if you/they purchase a new phone via that plan.
You are an adult who is engaged, don’t go backwards.
I would hesitate to financially tangle myself to a partner who is himself financially still tangled to his parents.
If anything, you two should have a shared plan.
No way in hell would I be on my in-law’s plan. And I like them. You guys are closer to 30 than teenagers. Cut the cord already.
It’s also not reasonable, in this day in age, to go without a phone for over a month.