He’s a great guy, all green flags. We’ve had a few disagreements but I’ve known him my whole life.
His relationship was toxic, I’ve also been through a 7 year relationship so I understood when he meant he’s DONE. Everything he’s done has proved he’s over it, and he’s gone above and beyond too show he’s 100% committed to me. We didn’t wait too long till they broke up to start dating.
This girl and her family are crazy, stalking us, making us go viral. He had to deal with the worst stuff. Her Schizophrenia and being scared she’d kill him so many times. He’s relived and happy, friends love me, his family loves me, but her mom and her won’t stop bothering us in so many ways. It’s impossible to get away. I haven’t said anything mean or rude. Ignore everything said about me( even though she made me go viral and I got tons of hate comment and rude comments and more for lies and hate on my looks) I can handle that stuff, personally. With all these green flags. Should I still be worried I? Anyone else been in this similar situation?
NTA – except for the slightly worrying impression I get that you don’t seem to think that HE had any choice in the matter.
**He** chose to leave her and be with you. In terms of the short time gap – it’s not uncommon for people to emotionally check out before a relationship ends i.e. be recovering from the end of the relationship while still in it.
Assuming that his ex has an actual confirmed clinical diagnosis of schizophrenia then sounds like he dodged a bullet. Also, the behaviours could escalate, it’s an awful illness. Either way, make sure you both document/screenshot everything, and get in touch with the police if the behaviours escalate from “annoying” to “dangerous”.
Date who you want girl but your bf is a coward at best for not leaving a mentally ill, toxic relationship until he has her successor lined up. What kind of person dates someone so awful for so long?
NTA. If the ex and her mom are crossing lines and invading your lives, you have every right to feel under attack. Time to consider legal action if it doesn’t stop. For now, focus on your relationship and ignore the toxic external noise.
NTA. If she harrasses you, report her to the police. She had no qualms about exposing you on the internet and causing issues, so report her and protect yourself. Report her to police, to the social neteork, maybe they ban her or suspend her account temporarily or just remove the offending content. Second, it’s on your boyfriend to protect you too and talk to her. If he doesn’t, that is worrying.
Info: how long was the overlap from when he met you to when he broke up with her to be with you?
I don’t understand how this is an AITA? You described how perfect you and your bf are and how awful this other person is. What am I missing here?
This is 100% going to fail.
do you know how to block?
ngl i always appreciate the fact that I don’t have this much drama in my life because jeez this was exchausting to read
YTA – You say he broke up with her for you, so you were already in the picture even if you didn’t make it officially known. So that makes you & him AH.
The ex might be schizophrenic or your man just made her cray cray….because less face it, if he was already talking to you while being with her, he’s a liar!! You put yourself in this situation.
The man was a walking red flag…
That being said, if she’s harassing you then call the cops & get an order of protection.
**NAH leaning NTA, but there are some real red flags you shouldn’t ignore.**
First, you didn’t *make* him break up with his ex. He chose to leave a toxic relationship and then chose to be with you. Adults are responsible for their own decisions, and it sounds like he’s been consistent and intentional about being with you.
YTA for being the other woman. If the mental illness diagnosis is real, you could be in real danger, you should contact the police and file a report.