Hey guys,
After taking blood test requested by my doctor i found out that my testosterone levels are low.. Long story short I had the option to live with it or try Testosterone replacement therapy. My doctor advised I start at a low dose of 100mg weekly via inter muscular injection (having to pin myself at home once a week). So like a responsible adult I sourced a local government paid program that offers clean syringes and sharps containers to keep people safe (mostly drug users).
Me and my wife and kids have been renting a house with her father and stepmom. Which I mean for the most part has been pretty okay. Her step mom is a bitch but we keep the piece and try to conduct ourselves in a respectful manner to save the drama. Anyways to my dismay, my mother in law found out about my new prescription aswell as the method of which I have to administer it. I was pretty uncomfortable with sharing it with anyone but my wife but somehow she over heard some stuff and now is making a big deal about me having needles in the house and how it’s disgusting and how she doesn’t want them around even though I’ve taken all the extra steps to keep everything clean and safe. So I told her “what if I was diabetic and had to give myself insulin” to which she replies “That’s disgusting, I would die”. Am I the asshole or is she being as unreasonable as I feel she is. I feel like it’s either suffer with an imbalance or please the old hag.
NTA. What in the hell is wrong with that lady?
Nah man you’re not the bad guy here. You’re taking a legit prescription and doing it the safe, clean, grown up way. Her acting like needles equal drug den vibes is just her being dramatic for no reason. If she’d “die” at the thought of insulin, that’s on her. You shouldn’t have to tank your health just to keep an old hag happy. Keep doing your treatment and keep your stuff stored right. Her feelings don’t override your medical needs.
NTA. You’re taking prescribed meds, not running a back-alley pharmacy. If her reaction to medical needles is “I would die”, that sounds like a her problem.
NTA. She is being completely unreasonable. I would also mention that the injection is safest for everyone in your family as it can’t rub off onto them.
Stop having the conversation. Let her know your medical needs are none of her business and she shouldn’t have been snooping anyway. You will continue with your medical treatment and she will not give commentary unless asked. End of story.
If I had to guess, I’d say that you will never be able to please her.
If the doctor told you that you have to bake your MIL fresh cookies once a week, she’d probably still complain about it.
Take care of yourself.
NTA. “Unless you have a medical degree I’m unaware of and I’ve asked for your expertise as a result, I am not open to your unsolicited feedback on how my actual doctor is treating my health issues.”
As someone who also has to do monthly injections (not testosterone) NTA at all. Time for them to find a new place to rent
It’s time to have a conversation with your wife about not sharing your medical info with her family.
As a diabetic her attitude is completely horrible. You are NTA but your stepmother is a complete A! A medical condition is a medical condition whether it be diabetes, cancer or anything else. Therapy is therapy and your StepMIL is seriously undereducated on medical issues. Please do not stop your treatments for her or anyone else. If you get site irritation, talk to your doctor asap because that is common and treatable. I hope your therapy is wonderful for you. Take care and be well.
Your MIL needs to be quiet and mind her own business
NTA.
She’s obviously unreasonable and controlling. If she has a legitimate needle phobia that’s her problem to manage.
Congrats on the diagnosis! I know that’s weird to say, but I believe that low testosterone feels like crap, and once it’s corrected you feel dramatically better. So again – congrats, follow your doctor’s advice, hope you feel spectacular and have loads of sex.
NTA
Might wanna look into finding a new place to live. The MIL needs to get a grip.
NTA and she is 100% TA!! I’m actually floored she considers diabetics “disgusting”.