I live in a small college dorm with one other person. My roommate doesn’t get up in the morning (or go to class) and sleeps until about noon. I get up at 6:30 am on Tuesday and Thursday, 7:30 Wednesday and Friday, and sleep at home the rest of the week.
My roommate is a complainer and has bitched about the alarm before. I’ve tried to compromise and have tried multiple different alarm sounds and they still are upset about the alarm.
I’d kind of just given up and decided to use the alarm and let them be pissy. But the reason I’m posting this is because I kind of feel like a dick. I was sleeping very heavily this morning and didn’t wake up to the alarm right away, I think it was going off for 30-40 seconds (alarm goes off at 7:30, clock still said 7:30 when I got up) and when I when I did get up my roommate was glaring at me. I’m normally a light sleeper and wake up very quickly to any sudden noise (gotta love trama) so sleeping through my alarm for even a few seconds is very unusual for me.
I’ve tried my best to be considerate with this roommate, but they don’t grant me the same kindness (they don’t shower, let food rot in the room, wake me up regularly, intentionally trigger asthma attacks, etc) I’m sure someone will comment calling me a baby or a whiner, but I don’t want to be an asshole. We only have 2 more weeks (including this one) and I’ve been approved to move out next semester and will be getting out of here as soon as possible.
As much as I want to make this roommates life suck for how much they’ve tortured me, I don’t want to give them any reason to get me in trouble or anything excuse to make my life worse.
Idk what to do. Should I get some ear buds and find a way to make the alarm go through those? Am I even in the wrong here?
NTA
Sounds like it isnt going that long and you have classes. They can use ear plugs
NTA
You’re allowed to have an alarm for class. One time of not waking up instantly isn’t a crime. Your roommate has way bigger issues rotting food, waking you up, asthma triggers and shouldn’t be complaining about a normal alarm.
With two weeks left, just keep it reasonable and get out. You’re not in the wrong.
NTA as long as you never hit that snooze button like a degenerate snooze loser.
NTA. If they are sharing a room they need to deal with it.
Honestly talk to your RA and start the process for a room change if that’s available. Otherwise you just have to not give a shit if you upset him anymore.
NTA.
Its a college dorm. The expectation is people have to get up in time to go to their classes. If he has no morning classes, bully for him. He can roll over and go back to sleep.
The idea of asking someone to potentially miss class for them is absurd.
If he doesn’t like that, he’s free to go rent an apartment all by himself. If he can’t do that? Well suck it up, buttercup. This is what living with roommates means.
NTA but, you’ve only got two more weeks with this person so, does it really matter what you do? It’s just about over either way, right?
that person is a loser you’re NTA. fuck them they’re going to fail out & be a loser forever
This is the reality of having a roommate in a dorm, unfortunately for them. They can make other arrangements if they can’t deal with it. I’ve slept comfortably with Loop earplugs before to block a roommates snoring, you could suggest something like this for them.
NTA. If he really hates it he can wear earplugs. It’s not like you are getting up at an insane hour.
NTA
As long as it’s one alarm and you wake up within a minute, you’re good.
Oh my God your alarm was going off for a whole 30 seconds? How will your roommate ever survive this crime against humanity? Oh wait he sleeps until noon, doesn’t go to class, and just rots in your shared room along with the food he’s too disgusting and lazy to throw out? Oh man I think he can go back to sleep, but I guess that isn’t a reasonable expectation.
You can’t get in trouble for your alarm going off. However, he can get in trouble for the state of the room, most dorms make you sign some kind of agreement about cleanliness expectations just like when renting an apartment.
You only have two weeks, just ride it out. Take care of you and your responsibilities and he can cope and seeth in his fungus infested bed.
Edited to add: obviously NTA.
NTA – Why is your roommate living in a dorm if they don’t even go to class?
Your roommate can use noise cancelling headphones. There’s literally no college roommate situation where you can expect to not have alarms. They can pay the money to live alone or accept the actual reality of how things work.