It was my birthday last week and one of the gifts my gf got me was membership to an independent cinema in our town.
It’s something I was considering but decided against it due to cost. With the membership you get your name and photo on the wall and get to take home movie posters alongside other benefits such as some free tickets and discounted snacks.
The minimum term is at least a year and you can pay in full, monthly or in 2 or 4 instalments.
My gf chose to pay in 2 instalments. I thanked her for the membership and she mentioned the next payment is due in may.
I asked what she meant and she said I’d have to pay the next 6 months then any more after that if I kept it on. I asked why she got me it if she knew it meant I was going to have to pay for half of it after she knew I’d decided against it due to cost.
She said she knew it was something I wanted and that im being ungrateful but I just said she can’t expect me to be happy at having a gift that I have to pay for myself.
She repeated I wasn’t being fair and was being ungrateful towards her when she has gotten me something I wanted.
AITAH for not being happy with the gift?
NTA. that’s actually wild. Though I assume you’re not actually on the hook for the other installment. Either it’s going to auto-charge whatever she used or lapse. Imagine someone being like “I got you a trip on a cruise! you have to pay for it!” Absolutely not.
I’m going with NTA because it sounds like the second payment is not optional. She should have either paid in full or planned to make the second payment herself. If she paid but then you’d have to reup at the end of the year, that wouldn’t be AH because you could just let it go, but in this situation she’s giving you a bill.
ETA, typed Y.TA while meaning NTA, fixed it.
The sentiment may be sweet, but giving someone a debt as a gift should only be done with the gifted debitee’s prior knowledge and consent.
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