I m22 have an intense love for clowns. I’ve loved clowns my whole life and in my private time I dress as a clown and run around the house. My friends and family know I dress as a clown and they’re cool with it but it’s weirds them out but it’s part of my personality so they are ok with it.
Now for the issue at hand. This holiday season has brought my older brother and his wife to our house for a while. The family had left to go somewhere and I decided to stay home to get some alone time. While I was alone I decided to dress up as a clown and decided to be experimental and I did full body pant and very “intense” make up with blacked out eyes and giant purple lips a more gothic clown look. So I was chilling in the kitchen in my outfit and to my surprise my brother’s comes in and freaks tf out and starts crying and throws her water bottle at me and it hurt bad. Then I screamed at her saying “it’s me, don’t you recognize me” and she ran out the door and I followed her and kept saying “it’s me” and she was more scared. Eventually she ran to a neighbors house and waited to my family came back. She claimed I was purposely trying to scare her and push her out of the family. I told her that I didn’t know she was there. My family is mad at me about my hobby and are telling me it’s childish and that I need to grow up and stop dressing as a clown. I told them that they’re all losers and that what I do in my free time isn’t their business. I don’t think I’m in the wrong at all and I think my brother’s wife is childish for having a fear of clowns but everyone around thinks I’m in the wrong.
EDIT*** I was not naked like some comments suggested. I was shirtless but I had pants on.
I don’t know if you’re TA for dressing up like a clown , but you’re definitely an asshole for calling them all losers.
Also, when you say full body paint, do you mean that you were naked?
Finally, why follow her so intently? If you followed her to the point that she went to the neighbor’s house, I’m definitely leaning to you being the asshole. Not for dressing look like a clown, but for a general lack of self awareness.
NAH but I would avoid dressing up as a clown if you know your brother’s wife is around or nearby. I don’t think it’s unhealthy to enjoy dressing up and I think a fear of clowns is normal for some people.
Edit: it is questionable that you called them losers so this could be a y-t-a situation if you were irrational in arguing with them
Ok, I’ll play along, because I’ve seen weirder stuff on My Strange Addiction. Chasing your sister-in-law is where you went wrong. She was scared and ran away, and you decided to run after her as she tried to escape. Whether it was because she had a fear of clowns or she just thought you were a stranger in the house doesn’t matter. She didn’t recognize you and was frightened. Don’t chase frightened women.
When someone is scared of you and running away, STOP CHASING THEM. Seriously, this is so basic that I’d expect a child to be able to understand. You knew she was badly scared, and instead of giving her space to calm down, you kept pursuing her. That’s probably why she thought that terrifying her was intentional. If you had accidentally scared her and then let her get away from you, you might have been able to convince her that you didn’t mean it, but your actions read like someone who was enjoying scaring her and wanted to keep doing it.
I’m not going to comment on your weird hobby beyond saying that when you have guests over, especially ones it sounds like you don’t know very well, you should give them a heads up when you’re going to do your weird hobby rather than risking exactly what happened here.
YTA.
YTA. You were in full body paint and expected her to recognize you? And if you’re in full body paint, that means you’re not wearing clothes. So I can see her being totally freaked out. This is not about her having a fear of clowns. This was about her walking into what she thought was an empty house and finding an apparent stranger in full creepy clown paint sitting in the kitchen (presumably naked due to the full body paint) and then that stranger starts screaming at her when she’s already scared.
The only thing I’m unclear on is why you think this was okay and why you’re not apologizing for scaring her.
For the record, your hobby is fine. But doing it when people are visiting is not a good idea and being an ass about it when you do mess up is not okay.
Yta and everyone have have a phobia you need to be careful you going to get shot or killed
Dude you realise clowns are a legit phobia recognised by professionals ? Have a hobby but don’t act like fear isnt valid. It’s literally the uncanny valley effect. Majority of people aren’t scared of clown but are wired to see unnatural faces as something to be weary off. You said this was gothic but gothic is ethereal not macabre
YTA . Thats some serial killer shit
YTA. You should know a lot of people think clowns are creepy/scary. I know it’s your house but come on man.
“in your free time” does not involve other people. Some people gave a fear of clowns often enough that there are terms for it. YTA.
YTA. Not for dressing up as a clown (although perhaps that is something worth exploring…) but for chasing a scared person after the initial interaction. Also, for calling your family “losers.” Its also worth noting that you (by the way you tell this story) live at home so it is your parents house. Therefore, they could reasonable make the argument that whatever goes on in their house is their business. If you want to lounge around half-naked dressed as a clown get your own place?
Yta for your attitude alone.
Yeah no YTA. Like I get it bro you wanna dress up cool and all but you scared that poor woman. I hope you didn’t mean any harm but like you should know that when someone is screaming to the point they ran to another house maybe they’re a tad a bit afraid. Also you seem entitled you called your family “losers” for being mad at you but I think the real loser is you. As you don’t seem to have ability to understand how weird you were in this situation.
What in the name of