i come from a culture where we get our noses pierced verryyy young. i had a nose stud at 10 years old and my mom had hers done at a similar age. it’s seen as a sign of beauty where i’m from and it’s never been a big deal. all the girls in my family get their noses pierced before they’re 15
my 13 year old cousin has been begging for a nose piercing and my aunt asked me to take her one day because she couldn’t find time in her schedule. cousin got her nose pierced and she loved it. it was a small stud with a little diamond
my aunt loved it too but her husband wasn’t so happy. her husband isn’t from our culture, he is a dude with very different views to the ones my family share. he’s also not very kind and i try to limit my contact with him. when he found it i took her he came over and started yelling at me
apparently he didn’t want her to get her nose pierced as he didn’t believe it was appropriate. he also said i should’ve asked him first, despite my aunt giving consent. it’s been two weeks and he’s still texting about it and mentioning it every time i see him
i didn’t even think to ask him because it’s so normal in my culture to get our noses pierced young. AITA?
>my aunt asked me to take her
You had parental consent.
Outside of that, it’s between your aunt and her husband.
NTA
I think this is a who is the AH Aunt or Uncle and they both are, and you got stuck in the middle. Auntie had you take her because she didn’t want the heat from her husband. Also just for future.. .when someone outside your culture marries into your family that doesn’t mean your culture takes precedence… it means there has to be a meeting in the middle.
NTA though on your part
ETA Judgement
NTA. Your aunt asked you. Thats why you didn’t ask first. That’s it.
NTA. If a child’s parent asks you to do something, that is parental consent and you’re under no obligation to verify that the other parent is also in agreement. His anger is 100% misdirected. Just repeat that his wife, the child’s mother, asked you to do this and any concerns he has should be discussed with her, not you.
(I’m curious how old you are? Not that it makes a difference to the verdict, but the younger you are, the shittier he’s being.)
NTA . Honestly just seems like an overprotective father who hates to not be in the loop. Not your fault as you were literally asked to by a parental figure. Culture is culture, and the girl is 13 with a piercing so really nothing new.
NTA you had consent, he should be mad at his wife, not you. How Could you have known your aunt was going behind his back? Usually parents are a unit.
NTA. Your aunt requested that you take her so if her husband has a problem, he needs to take it up with his wife.
NTA All you did was something perfectly normal to you with the permission of your aunt. If it was a big deal to your uncle he should have made his wife aware not dump his anger on you.
Good lord NTA-Uncle needs to take a pill
NTA – your aunt told you to. If he wants to be upset with someone it should be your aunt.
Aunt is the AH here. Clearly there was some parenting decisions that still needed to be made that aunt decided to just unilaterally bypass.
NTA
Tell your parents and your aunt what he’s pulling, because she’s the one who should be standing up to him, and your parents need to know that he’s harassing a teenager.
Sounds like you were convenient to yell at. His wife probably would have yelled back.
You are NTA. Your aunt asked you to take her, you had no reason to question it.
Your aunt and uncle are both at fault, though: your aunt for unilaterally making parenting decisions without his input and for (it sounds like) using you to get around his disapproval; and your uncle, mostly for harassing you about something that isn’t your fault, but also for calling his wife’s cultural practices “inappropriate.”