My husband is on disability for migraines. He helps this neighbor on his farm with cows and planting. He is paid like $10 an hour and it is something he likes to do and it lets him make extra money. Well he has been using his 1 ton truck to feed cows, run errands (like to get feed from the store and take stuff to get fixed or whatever is needed. So they are always running around in our truck. I this it is bs and he shouldn’t be using his truck regardless if the guy puts gas in it. I am worried about all the miles they put on it and the wear and tear.
So AITAH for telling him he shouldn’t use his truck to work someone else’s farm.
I’m sorry, either you’ve left or a lot of context or I’m missing the point.
You would rather your husband sit at home instead being active, doing something that he finds fulfilling?
YTA until you can provide better context or reasoning beyond worrying about “wear and tear” on the vehicle from simply using it.
He is using his truck to run the farm errands and move equipment instead of using the farmer vehicle
So? How is that putting any additional wear and tear on it than just driving it for household errands? It sounds like it’s being used for pretty short distances if it’s just ‘around the farm’.
You keep referring to it as “his truck”. If it’s his truck, why do you care what he does with it? Presumably you have your own vehicle you can use as you please?
This sounds like you have an issue with something else and are projecting that frustration on this situation instead of addressing your real issue. Are you resentful that he’s spending more time “helping” this farmer than he is doing things around your own home?
Anytime the vehicle is driven it is additional wear and tear.
Personally NTA
My fiance is a foreman and the company is ruining our personal vehicle into the ground and stringing us along with the idea of a company truck that never comes.
Odds are that if he’s only getting paid $10/hr, if he tells them he can’t use his own truck anymore they will probably fire him or give him less work. They aren’t going to get a company vehicle if they are only paying $10/hr
If your husband is helping for the sake of helping (and it seems like he is, and is accepting a nominal amount of pay for his work because neighbor feels it’s necessary) and needs his truck to do so, I wouldn’t worry about it. Cars get miles put on them. They get wear and tear. It’s normal and not anything you need to freak out about.
NAH. It’s understandable you find this frustrating as it’s a frequent thing, but if it’s something your husband sincerely enjoys doing for your neighbor, let him do it the way he likes doing it.
Info: Is money really tight for you guys? Is this just a neighbor thing?
I’m confused. He’s on disability for migraines but he’s working?
NTA for telling him but it’s his business and maybe he enjoys being needed.
INFO: Is it safe for someone who has migraines that are so debilitating that they have to go on disability payments to be driving a truck?
Info: aren’t you worried about him “making an income” this amount of manual labor while on disability just sounds like you’re waiting to go to court and get grilled with pictures of it