AITAH Moms boyfriend keeps trying to either help or talk to me.
Context i live with my mom in a trailer bf doesn’t live with us and was arrested in the past for assulting my mom and what not tldr he was abusive before going to prison but now is trying to be better. I’m anti social and hate asking for help and wanna handle my own problems and not owe people anything like money or favors. I’m male btw but i grew up where my dad either forced his way of doing things or berated me for not doing as he said. Basically i always did what my dad wanted and never really thought for myself. My rig aka vehicle is old and having problems but I’m working on it the only problem is cash and money which thankfully I just got a new job that is fulltime and pays 26/hr but i have to wait for cash so I’m making the best of my things. Moms bf complains about texting me even though he hasn’t texted me for about a month and if he did i had no service cause i was either using the ferry to go off island. We live on an island. To go to job training which blocks service or was in a dead zone meaning i can’t get calls text or anything the place had wifi which i got onto about 3hrs of being there but i also don’t normally use wifi cause i have unlimited data. Anyway i ended up telling my mother that if i wanted help I’ll ask for it cause i wanna be able to handle my things without someone trying to be my dad. I can be a bit of a blunt mofo but i always kept it honest and real. I appreciate people wanting to help me but yea am i the asshole?
Add on my mom and i bicker about how I’m not as welcoming to her bf as she is and I’m not i don’t like the guy but if she is happy with him I’m not gonna force her to choose
NTA but this is way above Reddit’s pay grade. Moving out would probably be the best for your mental health but I see that’s impossible if you are strapped for money.
You don’t say how old are you but even if you are an adult your mother is an AH for exposing you to an abusive household. Bf is an AH for obvious reasons.
Im 25 but yea cash is tight as fuck rn
That is such a crap situation to be in. You don’t own people anything other that courtesy and I would argue that bf doesn’t even deserve that. It would be better for your mother to open her eyes and cut him off but I don’t see that happening.
Save as much as you can to move out as soon as possible. Good luck.
Thanks man thankfully like i said in my post new job that pays 26/hr along with bouses for performances and what not
He is not trying to be your dad. Lose your attitude. See if there is anything he can help with. Why would you want your mum to choose? her love for each of you is different. YTA
NTA. You don’t want his advice or help. Thank him kindly and just tell him you’ll handle things on your own. If he complains about texting just tell him about the dead zones. You don’t owe him any kind of relationship. He sounds awful, having been locked away for abusing your mother. It’s all fine and good that he is trying to improve himself but I’d be very hesitant to let him close.