I’m 18F. My boyfriend never wants to have passionate, slower/sensual kind of sex and is mostly into being really rough with me during sex. And yes I do like rough sex but would like if we could have more gentle loving sex sometimes too.. we’ve had sex like that a couple of times before and i really liked it. It would be nice if we could do both and not only rough sex all the time.
This has been my only relationship and he’s the only guy I’ve had sex with. Like he’s been my first kiss and everything. He’s had sex before though. I’ve told him i like it the couple of times when we’ve had more romantic sex that’s not as rough but he still is only rough. So it makes me feel like he kinda doesn’t care about what I want in bed sometimes while I care a lot about what he does and always want to make him feel good.
Like tenacious d says sometimes you gotta fuck her slowly
Make sure to be specific what rough and romantic are and are not… These are subjective terms.. especially romantic
Funny aside regarding Tenacious D; About 20 years ago I was watching my friend’s band play in a bar. An older couple walked in as they started playing “Fuck Her Gently”. They stood there for maybe 20 seconds, and walked right back out.
Tell him if he wants to have sex at all then he needs to listen to you about the kind of sex you want to be having. If he won’t then he can try no sex for awhile.
Saying you liked the less rough sex is not the same as asking him to not have rough sex with you. Tell him, without beating around the bush, that you want to have more passionate sex. If he doesn’t listen, stop having sex with him and find another man who can listen.
I’m not sure 18-year-olds who were raised on porn even know what a romantic relationship is like. Without romantic parents who would be their role models?
You’re not wrong that porn can do a number on young people with limited real sexual experience. That said, there is plenty of porn that is more romantic, sensual, and focused on the pleasure of everyone involved and it’s not hard to find.
Making love vs fucking.. There is a time and place for either.. Both are important in their proper context..
This is the answer. Also good chance if a guy is only banging you around like a drum he doesn’t feel romantic towards you
Honestly I get bad vibes from this post. Like the boyfriend is significantly older and just using and abusing some poor girl..
Your boy is watching too much porn, that’s for sure.
Next time you peg him really hard without mercy, and see if he likes the receiving end too.
When I was 17, and having sex. That was the only type of sex that I thought girls enjoy, my only exposure to sex was porn.
Turns out, that’s not true (I can’t believe they were acting!).
I now realize that the rough sex probably feels a lot worse than slow(-er), sensual and romantic sex.
You should abstain from sex if you’re not enjoying it, period. This will end up making you make all sorts of compromises in the future that aren’t healthy.
Bc he’s a dumbass 18 yr old who has zero clue how to actually have sex bc he learned whatever he’s doing from watching porn. Not to sound corny but sex only really becomes amazing when it’s also an emotional connection and not just a physical one. My
Condolences to you
It’s worse than that. Dude’s 40.
Wait what?