I want her to call me whatever she’s comfortable with, but admittedly it does break my heart a little that she’s calling me dad now. It also concerns me that her friend was telling her that it’s weird and seemingly making fun of her for it to the point where she feels like she can’t call me this anymore. I tried to talk to her about it but she seems very influenced by the opinions of this particular friend.
It’s Dad when they are talking to you
It’s DDDDAAADDDYYY when they want something
Did this up until my dad died lmao
Mine has started calling me father lol and says daddy when she wants something.
Thirteen is an age where kids really start to individuate – and that means they start paying a lot more attention to fitting in with their peers.
It does suck, as a parent to have your kids pull away from you.
But if it makes you feel better, this is way better than her friends getting her into vaping or hanging out with internet weirdos.
Jr High, when they turn into little stinky aholes 🙂
Regardless of her friend, it’s pretty normal to make this switch when they get around this age. Teenagers are pretty self-conscious about seeming older and more mature, and “daddy” is something they will associate with younger kids. My daughter is a similar age and moved to “dad” a while ago.
Crazy so many people here don’t get his. People just forget when they were kids.
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Being called “daddy” can have certain connotations and she’s just starting to learn this.
If you have a good relationship with your kids, we all go through this.
When my youngest son (21 now), was about 12 or 13 he was having a big group of friends over and he told me that while his friends were here he was going to call me “mom” and just know he will still call me mommy when they are not around. I thought it was really sweet that he made the effort to talk to me about it beforehand. He is a great young man!
My daughter is 16, usually calls me dad. Sometimes she tells me she hates me, sometimes she says I suck.
Edit she called me a bitch the other day, I told her that ain’t cool, don’t do it again.
It’s not difficult to talk to your kid and say how you feel about the way they address you
She’s a teenager. They’re constantly (surrounded by people who are) sexualizing vegetables, numbers, and other normal terminology, like what you call your father.
What advice do you want? This is just part of growing up. Accept it.
My opinion? It’s part of maturing. “Daddy” can be infantilizing. “Dad” sounds adult. At least she didn’t switch to “Father”. The friend thinks it’s weird because it sounds off to her and that’s reasonable. And I’m not saying this is at play at all, but there’s often other connotations to “daddy” that can make other people that hear it feel that it sounds off. It’s not about you, it’s about her maturing and moving towards independence. And that may be why it’s sad and bittersweet.