I’m 18M if it matters. For religious reasons I’m waiting until marriage. I’m a virgin and am only interested in dating a girl who’s a virgin. Is it bad or idk too judgmental to only want to date another virgin? I guess if I really connected with a girl who isn’t a virgin but is ok with waiting until marriage I would still consider dating her, but I would rather date a virgin tbh. Do you think it will be hard to find a girl who’s a virgin and wants to wait?
Yeah but if you wear it on your sleeve like that, you’re only inviting people to lie to you. It’s not actually hard to find women who are virgins even until their late 20s so it’s not out of the ordinary. Especially if you hang around people in your same religion.
Exactly being honest is fine but hanging out with people who actually share your values makes finding someone on the same page way easier.
Yes, but the truth is the longer you wait to find your mate- the smaller that pool of likeminded or similarly virginal people becomes, and if you’re over 30 forget it.
Here’s the thing about your personal standards: it doesn’t matter AT ALL whether I think they’re reasonable. It only matters that you can actually attract someone who fits them.
Personally, I think it’s okay to want someone with a similar level of experience or lack thereof. Where it gets icky is when your attitude is that sex “devalues” someone. If you believe that, stay a virgin.
It’s okay to date whoever you want. Nobody cares
It’s OK for you to want whoever you want.
The dating pool will be smaller. How hard will it be? I don’t know, but I don’t think it matters. If it’s important to you, then that’s what you gk after.
Is it ok to “Want a certain girl” – sure.
Let this old guy tell you a story. As a young man of 18 I’ve “heard somewhere” that if I write down “what kind of girl I want” and carry it with me (in my wallet), that would “attract this certain girl”.
Now… Old and married with the same lady for all these years… She is not like the girl I wrote about on the note I have carried in my wallet. Not a single item would be a check… and I had a pretty good list.
Do I regret it? Not at all! Glad it worked out this way and not the other.
Day after we got married I’ve ripped that note and never looked back.
Is it ok to want a “certain girl”? Sure. Nobody can blame you for “having standard”, if they might be misguided… But take this old fart’s advice and give the girl a chance first – don’t discard her, without knowing who she is, just because she is not a virgin.
It’s fine. My buddy was very religious. And he found his religious wife after they both graduated from college. You want to be around similarly situated people (e.g., religious events). Probably not going to find what you are looking for at a club or a party.
Life is a *personal* journey.
Everyone is entitled to have their own mate selection screening process and must haves list.
Ultimately, you don’t need outsiders to approve of traits you desire in your future mate.
“Do you think it will be hard to find a girl who’s a virgin and wants to wait?”
It depends on *where* you go looking.
There are some “purity” groups/organizations along with some strict religious cultures that espouse waiting.
You may want to Google purity groups or dating apps for virgins.
Honestly, most people find it challenging to find *their ideal* mate.
Best wishes!
Also, you are 18. Your views may shift over time. What you want today is not what you will want in a few years.
Minus one asshole (so far), this is the most open minded comment section on religion I’ve seen on Reddit in forever. Well done gang.
It’s going to severely limit your choices, but sure, you can do it any way you choose.
You can have whatever standards you want. You just shrink your dating pool.
You run the risk of not finding anyone or of over selecting for the wrong things and ending up with someone not as good
Yes it’s not hypocrisy.