I just had my birthday this weekend and I decided to go to DC to celebrate with my bros. It was overall a good time, except for conversation about dating and trying to get a gf. You see literally all of my friends are players and can attract women without trying. Nowadays, they all grew up the player phase and have a gf. Literally, they all highly charismatic individuals so they make friends with everyone.
Then you have me. I am nothing like them. I am a virgin and I cant make friends with no one. Women avoid me like the plague. But they still ask me every time I am with them, if I am talking to any woman. The answer is always for the last 5 years. They make me try to talk to women in bars and even ask their gfs about dating advice.
It really bothers them that I am chronically single as well. Lowkey it doesnt make sense because I have spent alot of time around women. But I have came to conclusion that its not for me to date. Even their soon to be wives, wonder why I am single. The women they hang with treat me like a younger brother and wont let me drink around them. They also try to give me unsolicited dating advice. It makes no sense because these women wont recommend me their friends yet they want me to hit on girls in bars.
Like dont they realize that I am socially awkward? I posted myself at concert with my friends singing happy birthday. I had a bunch of women open the story but none of them liked the messages. However, I had like 40 dudes like it. Its extremely weird because men love me. Like I have guys texting asking why I dont hang out with them.
To recap, I used to believe in cold approach, and I read women very well. However, I naturally am a straight shooter. So I gave up in my ability to attract them. Convos are for me because being funny and flirty isnt natural. I thought confidence would help me but it didnt do anything for me. Even when I am drunk, I dont do better with women. Im just goofy so I gave up because women just dont like me.
So how do I tell my friends that women actively avoid me. They have to know right? Their fiancés never asked about me and they treat me abnormal. Heck they didnt even wished me happy birthday yet I am told that I am attractive
“That’s not something I want to talk about, thanks.” That’s it. You don’t need to explain.
Being single can be lonely but it’s more lonely to be in a relationship that isn’t a good fit.
> these women wont recommend me their friends yet they want me to hit on girls in bars
This says a lot
> Like dont they realize that I am socially awkward?
Yes. That’s why they are trying to help you.
> I read women very well.
You sure about that?
How old are you?
What do you look for in women?
He posts nearly every day about how sucky his dating life is and how none of the women at his med school want him.
At some point, you need to be honest about what the real problem is
Him saying he has a magic ability to instantly read women is cringe af. 😬
100%.
OP needs to realize that the’s projecting a vibe, even if he thinks he isn’t. We often wear our emotional states even when we don’t intend to, and I’d be willing to wager when he’s around women that are single & otherwise open to mingle, he’s projecting insecurity or even resentment or bitterness.
OP, if you’re listening to replies…this is a you problem, my dude. You need to work on yourself first and get in the right headspace, because that headspace is what is holding you back right now.
On a side note, if you haven’t already, check out the book Models by Mark Manson. Maybe you’ll find something that you are missing
What are the personalities and vibes of the women you try to date or the places where you try to meet women?
You might just be looking in the wrong place. For example, I went from ugly ducking to decent to great catch when I moved from Miami to New York.
brother.. is your plan to just post here about how unfair life is because you’re unattractive every single day for the rest of your life?
I know I’m on here a lot but damn dude, take a week off
Exactly, how can you politely tell this person the fact that he asks this question over and over is probably the exact same personality trait that makes it a litttttle hard for him to connect with ~~most people~~ women.
Has a roster full of bros but “can’t make friends with no one” ? Come off it mate
Yeah this doesn’t make any sense. The dilemma within itself is contradictory.
Has women hit on him and dance with him,but also thinks he’s ugly.
Maybe spend a little less time thinking about what people think about you. (Btw that’s not a magic skill, it’s self-centredness).