I am 27M. I have decided to try approaching women in person because dating apps don’t really work for me. I have only approached in person once and got instantly rejected. I don’t feel very attractive, even though I have photos on my profile. I just want to learn how to approach or talk to women so I can eventually find someone to be with.
You either practice and refine or just live in fear and never try.
If you think you’re ugly, just be funny.
As an ugly dude, I’d say that most dudes definitely know when they are ugly. So I’m going to take OP’s word for it. But yeah, you need to find something to compensate, whether that is being funny, social, or whatever.
You start with confidence. Seriously. And be ok with hearing “no.” Regardless of how attractive you feel you are, both of these are necessary. Even the guys you envy hear no plenty.
You’re obviously not confident, so go in being perfectly OK with hearing the word no. Fake the confidence, and you’ll see a difference even in the way they say no.
How do I get confidence if my looks don’t match? I wish I was more attractive. I think I’d be slightly more confident.
Fake it. Do it as an experiment. See what happens. You’ll notice really quickly that things change. Then you’ll be doing a lot less faking as it will start to happen on its own.
Have you tried get on your stomach and slithering across the floor?
I was thinking he could show off his parkour skills in his approach.
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If a woman is out of your league, then you could attempt to strike up a conversation just for the sake of conversation, but don’t make it weird like you’re hitting on them.
But mostly, aim lower, at women in your league, or below. Again, strike up a conversation as a learning experience. Step one is learning to be more social in general. Once you’re more comfortable talking to strangers, everything will be easier.
Talk to people without an objective other than to hear and learn about them.
Like you believe you’re not ugly. Confidence and charisma are important
You have to build rapport first. Try making small talk with as many ppl as you can and then if you have a good connection, then ask for the number or ask them out.
Find activities that can put you in constant contact with women so they learn more about you than it just being a cold approach