I trained kickboxing and boxing for about half a year, and I also trained boxing about a year ago. But honestly, it doesn’t feel like it taught me anything useful for real-life situations. I’m not a fighter at all — I don’t have the courage to get into fights, and I don’t even know why. I just freeze up when someone gets aggressive.
Today something really strange happened. I had an appointment at my barbershop. I showed up early and found out my usual barber wouldn’t be there for another two hours, so another barber offered to cut my hair. I said yes.
In the middle of the haircut, my usual barber — the guy who’s been cutting my hair for about 3 years — suddenly walked in and started yelling at me in front of everyone. He insulted me, acted aggressive, and even threatened to beat me up. It completely blindsided me. It was because his friend took the cut and i didnt wait for him, hes smoking alot of weed so maybe he snapped or something but he was going off like crazy at me
I didn’t want to escalate anything and I definitely wasn’t going to start a fight, so I just stayed calm, but I felt totally shocked and uncomfortable.
Hes also gypsy, and like 5 years older then me.
What should I have done in that situation? How do you deal with this and why do I freeze and just get nervous af instead of standing up for myself even after some training and little experience sparring
What would u have done?
You may cheat on your wife, but you never cheat on your barber! /s
You did nothing wrong, the guy is an asshole, find yourself a new barber
I’d argue the training allowed you to stay calm and not panic. First thing you learn as a trained fighter is never get in brawls as it’s unpredictable.
You need a new barber shop. Not just a new barber. He didn’t show on time. He disrespected you. End of.
Don’t go back there
Freezing up is normal in that kind of situation especially when someone you know flips out. Staying calm and leaving was the right call. Don’t go back to that barber, anyone who reacts like that isn’t worth your time. To deal with freezing, practice setting boundaries in low stress situations so it becomes easier when things get heated.
Yeah that’s solid advice. Freezing doesn’t mean he’s weak, it just means his brain was caught off guard. Keeping calm was the safest move and walking away from a guy who threatens clients is the only real option. Setting small boundaries in normal situations is great practice for moments like this.
Barber seems insane dont go back there.
Not worth it to do anything .
U win u go police station
U lose u go hospital
Both are time consuming
Your pride maybe took a hit but honestly it sounds like the outcome was ok. Sure, you could probably have kicked the shit out of him, but what is the point of that. If it escalated you got have ended up Sweeney Todd. Just don’t go back and forget about it.
Your barber is an insecure prick who isnt confident enough in his own skills to not feel threatened by the fact that you got your cut from one of his colleagues due to his own incompetence. This is a major red flag..intellectually, emotionally and professionally..should 86 such a person asap
Barber shop = scissors, razor blades, etc
You should have said “your colleague told me there was a mixup and you’re not in for 2 hours” or just kept quiet (as you did), find a new Barber that function like an adult.
He doesn’t even have to throw the colleague under the bus. “We had an appointment and you were late. Colleague offered to step up.”
There’s a massive difference between being told “he’s due in but late” (ok, I’ll wait) and “wouldn’t be there for another two hours” (I’ll get someone else to cut it)?
Walk away. He’s not your friend, you pay him for a service. He’s not entitled to your money and his behavior shows that he’s potentially dangerous if he doesn’t get his way.
As for the freezing, that’s a normal response to sudden stress. Fight, Flight, or Freeze are the three. You can try doing activities that put you in a stressful situation, like a competition, and that will help you overcome the freeze response.
I have some martial arts training as well but avoiding conflict altogether is the best choice.
Is this an AI story? It feels like it.