Long story short.
We’ve been together for 2+ years (F28, M34). We live in a rented apartment. He bought his car way before meeting me. Since we moved in I tend to drive his car more frequently than him. I pay for gas, no problem.
Recently he had to pay for yearly checkup, maintenence, registration fees and all other non-gas related fees. The car is in his name.
He thinks I should pay for half the expenses (around 300 dollars).
Idk what’s right in this situation. My first instinct was that it’s not my place to pay for expenses other than gas because the car isn’t and never will be in my name. Does that change of I drive it more than him? Dunno
And before someone calls me a gold-digger or whatever; I payed more than 3000 dollars in the last 2 years to furnish the empty apartment we are currently living in. He hasn’t chipped in a dime. I also payed the utilities debt we had (there were some complications, our landlord didn’t keep very good track of the expenses so we got them all at once) which were around 250 dollars (200 euros exactly). So I payed out of my own pocket for electricity and water we BOTH used.
He asked me to pay for it because he had to pay for the car fees (around 400 dollars) and because he lost his job recently. I am working currently and he is trying to start his own business, does not plan on getting employed again.
When you use a car, you are slowly damaging it. That’s why there is a yearly checkup.
If you were to rent a car, you wouldn’t only pay for gas.
You should pay for at least half of the maintenance fee. Not the yearly checkup, since he would have had to do it anyway, same for registration. You should pay for the mpact your use of the car had.
Do you not think he should pay her for the furniture she bought? He is using it and wear and tear will slowly damage it. Also the utilities debts.
Id ask him for half the furniture $1500 and then pay him half the car maintenance.
Subtract the 300 for half the car maintenance, and he still owes her 1200.
Fair is fair.
I am answering the question being asked here. Her paying for the furniture has nothing to do with the car. If she has an issue with their financial situation (which would mane sense because she is basically bankrolling him, paying for all the furniture, paying for all the expenses while he “tries to start a business”) then she needs to actually communicate about it.
She’s been driving his car for two years, I’m pretty sure the $1500 has been repaid and more. She needs to either get her own car or pay up.
Are you the boyfriend? He’s also not planning on working again…
>You should pay for at least half of the maintenance fee. Not the yearly checkup, since he would have had to do it anyway, same for registration. You should pay for the mpact your use of the car had.
I agree with this – OP’s use of the car has an effect on “wear and tear”.
However, I also think that a broader conversation needs to be had. Clearly this request is making OP uncomfortable and starting to think about **her** unreimbursed contributions (utilities debt, furniture). Added to the fact that bf is currently unemployed and planning to start a business.
The car is the least of your issues. You clearly are not on the same page financially or in your future goals. You need to address your misaligned visions of your future because this whole thing sounds like a recipe for resentment.
Talking only about the car, yes you should pay for half of it, you drive it more than him as you admitted, the rest of your money problems you should really sort out before you go any further, cause it seems you have some resentment towards him about it and thats fair from what you’ve said
half? he gets the entire value of the car if sold. she shouldn’t have put herself in this situation period but half is insane
Well depending on the car and the state of it then he might not get much back on the car, but yes half, she the one thats driving it more than he does, so why shouldn’t she pay half?
she shouldn’t even be driving it tbh, but it’s his asset. he needs to front most of the costs. if he doesn’t want her driving it more he can say *no*
He is fronting most of the cost, he’s paying 400, she’s pays 300
doesn’t matter. it’s his car. if he doesn’t like that she drives it more, don’t allow her to
I’m assuming you drive his car because you don’t own one, correct? This would be different if you each have a car but his is just more cozy or something.
All the expenses you describe are operating expenses connected with using the car, not purchasing expenses to buy the car. If you are sharing the usage, it is reasonable to share the usage expenses.
The house furnishing expenses are purchases, so it is reasonable to share the expense in the same way you share the ownership. That is, if you broke up tomorrow and moved out, would you take all those things with you, or split them? Either answer is fine, although it might be too late to change the split now if he doesn’t have any income.
Finally you have to talk about his business attempt. Starting a business can be very financially rewarding, or it can just drain everything you already have. You aren’t automatically obligated to support him in that leap of faith; but also if you don’t, then his odds of success go way down. And if you DO support him and he DOES succeed, you deserve some share of the success as well. There’s no right answer for this one, but there’s lots of wrong answers, so you need to have some detailed conversations about that now, before one or the other of you gets too far in to back out.