I have date and have sex with many women, it has been a lot of fun in the past but basically has been always the same over and over again.
I as a man I need to seduce, pay, take the lead, do the effort and so on but never the opposite. Currently I’m tired of that, it is like “oh no, again the same”.
I really and genuinely want to feel seduced and that a woman takes care of me.
The only way that I think I could find it is going to be possible is visiting a “night club” not searching for sex but just the feeling.
Does anyone could tell me if I can find it there even it is fake? Any other ways? I don’t really believe would happen naturally.
Fr. That shit gets BORING. And expensive
You’re not crazy or needy for wanting to feel desired. You just need to start dating in spaces where the dynamic you want actually exists, whether that’s confident initiators, older women, or even a sugar-mommy type. Get honest about what you want, and then go where those women are.
If you had a gf you could just simply ask her to roleplay but looks like you’re just banging around? Am I wrong?
You aren’t, I’m currently single. No idea about the role playing but it doesn’t sound genuine in any case
Its a lot of fun especially if you love the person.
It might be awkward if you’ve never done it but if the gf knows how to do it it will be hot
Unicorn find mate, sorry.
It can happen naturally. You just need to find different people and places.
Consider coffee dates. Consider event style dates or places. Have conversations with people and get to know them more without expectations. In fact, don’t even “take the lead”. You’ll find someone who’s interested in you and makes it known.
I tried not taking the lead and then things are not flowing at all, she would just be in “waiting to the next step mood”
Stop using sex as an excuse to date and instead date with the intent to learn.
Learn what? I’m super open for date without sex, that doesn’t mean I would love to feel seduced.
Date a woman 20 years older.
Just the way the gender roles play out. Been married 45 years, can count on my hands the times my wife “seduced” me. We still have an active sex life (2-3 times per week) but it will always fall on me.
Find someone that loves you
Maybe stop sleeping around so much. Men put effort in at the beginning but it’s hard to compete with a woman’s effort later on if they actually like you.